The G-spot can sometimes cause more confusion than pleasure; this seemingly elusive erogenous zone is the subject of ongoing debate among myriad magazines and news sites — some claim it’s the secret to eternal sexual satisfaction while others still deny its existence. And scientific studies on the subject are just as contradictory.
So what’s the truth about G-spots and how can people get the most pleasure out if it? And, most importantly, what’s the best way to have an educated conversation with curious shoppers that explains proper technique while meeting them where they’re at?
Let’s take a crash course on what (and where) the G-spot actually is, and how we can intensify G-spot stimulation for those of us who are ready for something a little “extra.”
What is the G-spot?
Named after Dr. Ernst Grafenberg, the G-spot is a mass of erectile tissue located one to three inches inside the upper wall of the vagina (toward the belly). Experts theorize the G-spot’s function is similar to the prostate and it is also sometimes referred to as the urethral sponge. Arousal causes this tissue to swell and become more prominent; to the touch, it feels like a hard lump with ridges on it — almost like a walnut. When this area is stimulated, it can inspire orgasm and even female ejaculation, but what happens varies greatly depending on the person. (We’re all unique snowflakes, right?)
Does every vagina have a G-spot?
The evidence we do have indicates that most, if not all, people with vaginas have a G-spot. This does not mean it’s easy to find, however. Confusing and conflicting information lead many to believe they don’t have one.
One key piece of information to consider is that, without proper arousal, the G-spot can often be difficult to feel and detect. It’s also important to remember that not everyone with a G-spot ENJOYS having the G-spot played with — or even touched. So much marketing and media rhetoric tells us that once we do find the G-spot, an explosive experience is imminent, which sends our expectation (and excitement) levels through the roof.
With such high hopes, it’s no wonder so many people incorrectly assume that, because fireworks didn’t spark or they didn’t squirt across the room, they must not have found their G-spot — and they MUST keep searching.
What is the right way to stimulate the G-spot?
The best way to find and stimulate the G-spot is to enter the vagina with two fingers making a “come hither” motion. A common misstep is doing this too gently.
Although everyone is different, most people with G-spots prefer vigorous and/or firm pressure against the area – with even more applied as arousal builds.
And while digital stimulation is nice, it’s not always practical. The amount of pressure, strength and endurance it requires can be hard on the hands and wrists — and that’s where sex toys can become an invaluable resource.
What are the most effective G-spot toys?
Stationary Toys – Non-vibrating sex toys made from rigid, non-porous materials are popular for G-spot stimulation. Metal and glass toys are firm and heavy, which aids in proper stimulation by giving the G-spot the force that it needs, and they’re also perfectly suited for temperature play. Cool them down in the refrigerator or warm them up in a bowl of hot water for some extra-sensory fun. In general, curved toys with bulbous heads are best, regardless of the material they’re made from.
Vibrating Toys – Every person’s body is different. Differences in pleasure can be challenging for those new to G-spot play, so how can someone know what kind of G-spot stimulator will work best if they’ve never tried before? In these cases, a dual stimulator is a great recommendation. These designs can be used vibrating or stationary and usually feature adjustable power options so that users can customize how they stimulate their bodies. Activating the different motors and holding the toy in various positions gives it versatility.
Wand attachments are another smart suggestion for shoppers looking to explore G-spot play.
In general, tools that offer the most G-spot pleasure are made from rigid material and have a pronounced upward curve. Point your customers toward these types of designs, but also care to remind them that it’s OK not to master the G-spot on the first (or even fifth) try. The goal is to explore and have fun while doing it — even if G-spot exploration doesn’t lead them to the sexual holy grail, it will still be an exciting journey shared by everyone involved.