Love Your Labia – Why Your Private Parts Are Perfect Just the Way They Are

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Femmes today are surrounded with messages of empowerment and encouragement from all sides, and when someone tries to stop us from spreading the gospel of self-power, there’s an army waiting on Twitter to come to our defense. It’s about time that gender equality became the #1 social media trend!

But for every body-positive Instagrammer, there’s a negative beauty fad lurking in plain sight, just waiting to tear down our self-confidence. One of those nasty trends is labiaplasty – plastic surgery for a super important part of your vulva – the labia.

Getting to Know the Female Anatomy

JIC you’re not aware, the vulva comprises the entirety of your external sex organs: the clitoris, clitoral hood, urethral opening, and labia.

In humans, there are two pairs of labia: the labia majora (or the outer labia) which are larger and fattier, while the labia minora are folds of skin between the outer labia.

The two types of labia – probably better known as the “vagina lips” when you’re talking to your girls – help protect the sensitive vaginal opening and clitoral area while also providing an awesome amount of pleasure potential during sex.

What is Labiaplasty?

Generally, a labiaplasty usually involves altering the inner labia, which are those “curtain” like flaps of skin that lead directly into your vagina.

Some labia are tiny, barely-there labia that are almost completely hidden by the outer labia, while others have longer, inner labia that extend down far enough to be seen outside the outer labia. Many inner labia are even different sizes, with one side hanging lower than the other.

In short, labia are a bit like boobs. It’s extremely rare that both sides are ever perfectly even, and there are so many variations and varieties that it’s impossible to describe them all. Rest assured, regardless of the length, your labia are perfect- exactly the way they are.

Unfortunately, your precious labia are also the target of the plastic surgery industry, which is trying to convince us that if our inner labia aren’t pink, tiny, and even, it’s time to go under the knife — yikes!

Here’s what we think about that- We think your beautiful, unique, and pleasure-giving inner lips are perfect just as they are — like the rest of your gorgeous body parts and we’ve gathered some fantastic reasons why you should always give plastic surgeons the snub in lieu of learning the language of labia love.

  1. Pink or Brown, Big or Small — They’re Natural, so Love Them All

To quote feminist hero Lady Gaga – “Baby, you were born this way!” Whatever your vulva and labia look like right this very moment, at whatever age and stage of life you may be, is exactly how they’re supposed to look.

Grab a mirror and perform a sensual inspection of your vulva. Notice the different colors and textures that change as you move from your outer labia up to your clitoral hood and then down to your inner labia and perineum.

Get acquainted with all your folds, and realize that you’re looking at a functional body part that was created to serve one of the most important events in the universe: to provide pleasure and create life. That’s sheer and utter POWER!

 

  1. Don’t Take Porn Star Bodies at Face Value

Looking to mainstream porn stars for sexual beauty inspo is like expecting to find a reachable workout goal by attending a high-fashion runway show. What you see in media, advertising, and even porn isn’t real — it’s a visual fantasy.

Porn stars often bleach their genitals, turning normally brown or dark red b-holes and vulvas a lighter shade. They also tend to remove body hair, and some even shell out thousands for labiaplasty, breast enhancements, and cosmetic fillers for larger lips and defined cheekbones.

While we respect every woman’s decision to transform herself into an image of beauty that appeals to her tastes, be sure to do some serious thinking before you consult a surgeon. Many women remove facial fillers and breast implants years down the line, but you can never grow your labia back.

 

  1. Labiaplasty is Permanent

Beauty trends that empower women to have fun playing with their look without any underhanded body-shaming are tons of fun.

Want to micro-blade your brows for some dramatic eyes? Go for it! Love multi-colored mermaid hair? Sounds like a gorgeous trip to the salon to us! Digging today’s pin-up-pretty make-up with vibrant red lips and huge fake lashes? Babe, we know you’re gonna kill it!

The difference between a trip to a make-up artist or a hair salon and an appointment with a labiaplasty surgeon is this: a dye job or pro make-up are meant to enhance what you already have in the name of fun. When you’re done playing grown-up dress up, make-up washes off and hair dye washes out.

Labiaplasty permanently changes a part of your body that’s uniquely you and sacred. You were given a beautiful vulva at birth, and once you alter that part of yourself, there’s no going back.

  1. Your Labia Contributes to Sexual Pleasure

If you’re still struggling to love the labia you see in the mirror, pay extra attention to those inner lips the next time you have sex or pleasure yourself.

Your labia is full of sensitive nerve endings that can mean the difference between a run-of-the-mill orgasm (which is, no doubt, still pretty great) and a mind-melting climax that encompasses your entire pleasure zone. In fact, some women need labia stimulation to come!

Using a bit of lube and your fingers, stroke your labia and notice how they become engorged and arouse as you stimulation them. Tease yourself by taking a few minutes to touch only your labia — fingers off your clit for now! Then do the same with your favorite vibrator, using it to tenderly touch your inner lips, moving from the base of your vulva to where your lips meet the clitoral hood. As you near orgasm, keep your labia in the game and those explosive feelings of pleasure will radiate throughout your entire vulva.

Once you realize the orgasmic potential of these extra-special sensual parts, you’ll never dream of changing them again. After all, who wants to cut their pleasure short?


Love Your Labia – Why Your Private Parts Are Perfect Just the Way They Are originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

Can I Become Addicted to My Vibrator?

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The simple answer to this question is NO, you cannot become addicted to your vibrator.

Merriam-Webster defines addiction as a “compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance (such as heroin, nicotine, or alcohol) characterized by tolerance and by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal.”

First of all, vibration is not a substance, it is a tool to enhance an experience. While you may enjoy and look forward to the release of feel-good chemicals as a result of orgasm, these are beneficial substances from a healthy source which will not bring you harm. It is akin to the feel-good chemicals released by walking in nature on a beautiful, sunny day.

Next, you will not become tolerant to and need increased amounts of vibe in order to orgasm, although, you may respond best to a certain vibration intensity.

Lastly, use of vibration will not produce withdrawal symptoms. Instead, what you are likely to experience is increased desire to have sex, because good sex begets more good sex!

Vibrator addiction is a myth


Will too much vibe ruin me for non-vibe orgasms?

Rest assured, you will not alter your pleasure nerves with vibration. While numbness from prolonged vibration in one spot at any given play-session can occur (hence, the suggestion not to use the vibe for more than 15 minutes at a time), the numbness subsides when the vibe is taken away.

There is no right or wrong way to experience an orgasm. The way you enjoy them is up to you. Give yourself permission to take advantage of technology and its many benefits, just as you do in your nonsexual daily activities. For example, you can blend heavy cream with a spoon, or you can use an electric mixer…but it will form stiff peaks easier and faster with electric beaters. Get the picture? The choice is yours.

 

What if vibration is the only way I can orgasm?

That is fantastic! Better to orgasm than not.

Some people are only able to orgasm with vibration, such as people with nerve impairment from spinal cord injuries, Multiple Sclerosis and Diabetes. Sometimes menopausal women will experience shorter, and less intense orgasms.  These people need extra stimulation (and the intensity of vibration seems to fit the bill) to elicit orgasms and there is no shame in that.

 

So, what is the issue?

More often than not, the real issue is that the partner feels left out. Their ego demands that they must give their partner an orgasm in order to be a good lover. But truly, orgasm is the responsibility of the person experiencing it and not the responsibility of their mate.

That said, partners can be invited to assist. Additionally, they can be reassured that there are other vital things they can do…like holding their partner, gazing into their eyes, talking to them, and letting their partners know that they are exciting and loved.

 

Suggestions

If you are bothered by the inability to experience an orgasm without vibe, try removing orgasm as the goal and avoid the usual mode of stimulation that rushes you to a quick orgasm. The problem is that we become so used to quick and predictable responses that we get frustrated and give up if they take longer than expected. So, stay out of your head and merely focus on the enjoyable sensations happening in your body. Slow down, experiment, and let pleasure be your guide.

Use your hands to explore what feels good. If in a relationship, allow your partner to manually and orally pleasure you, giving them explicit instructions on what turns you on. After experimenting, if you then need vibe to send you over the edge to orgasm, by all means, use it. Show your partner how it is done, and if mutually desired, allow them the pleasure of using the vibe on you.

 

Let go of shame! Enjoy your orgasms regardless of how they are experienced.


Can I Become Addicted to My Vibrator? Originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

The Importance of Sexual Health and Wellness

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When you hear about “sexual health and wellness”, the conversation is often about avoiding STIs and unwanted pregnancies. The understanding is that using condoms, getting tested, and preventing gonorrhea is the cornerstone of what is means to be sexually well.

But if you’ve ever felt:

  • Heartbroken over someone you know isn’t good for you
  • Shamed about your sexual desires and fantasies
  • Embarrassed about the shape, size, function, taste, or smell of your genitals
  • Sexually frustrated and unpleased
  • Lonely and skin hungry
  • Uncomfortable asking for what you want in bed
  • Unheard
  • Unworthy
  • Unsafe
  • Disconnected or disgusted by your body
  • Insecure about your sexual identity
  • Degraded for the way you dress, move, or express your sexuality in the world
  • Meh

… then you probably know that being sexually well goes infinitely deeper than if you have or don’t have a bacterial microbe. It’s about if you have or don’t have a fundamental joy in being you.

Sexuality is a vital part of being human. It’s what makes us who we are.

Being sexually well is about growing and thriving to a place where we can realize our full humanity, unapologetically. It’s physical, social, emotional, and mental.

Sexual wellness is paying attention to and honoring what your body needs.

Sexual wellness is knowing you are worthy of love and kindness from others.

Sexual wellness is living and loving according to your values.

Sexual wellness is practicing gratitude for your genitals and the sexual pleasure they provide.

Sexual wellness is asking your partner for what you want.

Equally important to how you treat yourself as a sexual person, sexual wellness is how you show up to others, and the world around you.

People who are living sexually well are not just doing what’s right by them:

  • Loving their bodies
  • Speaking up
  • Feeling comfortable about their sexual desires
  • Having good orgasms and a healthy vibrator collection

They are also:

  • Loving other people’s bodies, and not engaging in body shaming.
  • Listening when other people speak up, and listening with humility when their partners tells them what they want.
  • Helping other people feel comfortable about their sexual desires, by being a sex-positive person and not ridiculing any of the wild and wonderful ways people do their sexuality.
  • Making space for everyone to enjoy sexual pleasure, have good orgasms and a healthy vibrator collection if they so choose, by never slut-shaming how others express their sexuality.

Sexual wellness is not so much about preventing disease as it is about promoting compassion.

Why is this alternative model of sexual health and wellness important?

It all comes down to feeling good.

Whether it’s the physical feeling good of an incredible orgasm, the emotional feeling good of a , or the social feeling good of knowing you are contributing to a world that is more sexually kind and compassionate, sexual wellness is about embracing our truth- we are sexual beings, we want to feel good, and that’s valid.


The Importance of Sexual Health and Wellness by Dr. Jill McDevitt originally appeared on CalExotics.com

4 Reasons Why Masturbation is Your Ticket to Holistic Wellness

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Whether you’re a solo sex connoisseur or still unsure of just how to find your sweet spot, we recommend a healthy dose of masturbation.

Rather sadly, self-pleasure wasn’t always regarded so highly. If you’re brave enough to ask your grandmother, she’ll probably recall tales of the false rumors that the media, religion, and other poorly-informed individuals tried to spread about this totally harmless sexual activity.

Luckily for us, the tides have turned, and today’s sex education culture is re-informing the public about the reality behind one of the most natural forms of personal wellness.

Just in case you haven’t heard the good news yet, we’ve compiled a list of some of our favorite reasons to love yourself on the daily. Check it out – and then check yourself into an incredible big O!

#1 Masturbation makes you happy

Self-love might feel like a treat for your nether regions, but all those yummy feelings are originating from – you guessed it!  – the brain. They don’t joke about it being your sexiest organ for nothing!

Masturbation releases all sorts of feel-good chemicals, like serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin (the ‘love’ or ‘cuddle’ hormone). The benefits of these neurotransmitters read like a laundry list of happy things. Headaches disappear and you’ll feel all sorts of warm and fuzzy feelings as you come down from the high of climax.

Sexual self-pleasure is the all-natural cure for life’s little ailments. It’s good for you, completely free of charge, and still easier than keeping to your daily workout routine!

#2: Masturbation relieves stress and helps you relax

Partnered sex is romantic, but it can also be stressful in ways that solo play is not. When you’re by yourself, you won’t have to worry about whether you’re meeting expectations or if you and your partner have a matching libido. There’s just you, pleasure and lots of self-love.

Having trouble sleeping? You’ve got a remedy. Just as working out regularly encourage a more restful sleep, having sex with or without a partner is a physical exercise that induces the release of endorphins – a well-known hormone that helps you relax. If you’re having a toss-and-turn kind of night, consider turning to the Big O – you’ll be snoring before you start counting sheep!

#3 Masturbation teaches you about yourself and allows you to share that knowledge

Remember how you learned the subtle art of bike riding without training wheels? You probably took a few tumbles, but you’d never be on two wheels without just getting in the saddle and going for it! Self-pleasure is no different – you’ve got to stumble through those awkward finger motions to find what makes you melt into orgasm.

If you’re new to masturbation, it can feel a bit strange at first, but don’t give up. Your mind can easily become clouded with false information you might have heard as a kid, but we promise, self-induced climaxes won’t ruin you for partner sex or make you a loser (quite the opposite, in fact!). Keep trying different techniques – from tapping to rubbing to swirling – until your eyes roll back in your head. Don’t worry, you’ll know when you’ve found your signature move!

In addition to making you completely self-reliant in the pleasure department, you can teach all these new sexy tricks to your partner. Lovers aren’t mindreaders, and you know what’s rarer than growing hair on your palms from masturbating (we kid, we kid!)? Finding a partner who knows exactly how to make you moan from day one.

It takes good communication and a few bedroom lessons to get your partner into the groove of what gets you off. So how do you figure out what’s on tonight’s lesson plan? Yep, you’re right again – lots of self-taught masturbation sessions.

#4 It’s never too late to fall in love with yourself

No matter how old you are, or how many partners you’ve had, or wherever you’re going in life – masturbation is one of the few solo activities that you can never outgrow.

If you’re 80 and still struggling to orgasm, who says you can’t hop online, place an order for a vibrator, and come like a Goddess? Or maybe you’re still a virgin and clamoring to know what all the climactic fuss is about, but you’re not ready to take the plunge with a partner yet.

Either way, it’s never too soon or too late to treat yourself to the pleasure you deserve. After all, the most important sexual relationship of your life starts and ends with you!


4 Reasons Why Masturbation is Your Ticket to Holistic Wellness originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

Sweat Your Way to Better Sex! – Your Guide to the Orgasmic Power of Kegels

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Kegel exercises are as trendy as rose gold jewelry and hot yoga classes, and for good reason. This simple pelvic floor workout of squeezing and releasing your PC muscles is the key to more intense orgasms, better sex, and a healthier vagina. Doing daily kegels can even help you bounce back from pregnancy or control those little squirts of pee that sneak out when you laugh or sneeze, better known as incontinence.

Kegel repetitions work to tighten the muscles of the pelvic floor and vaginal walls. Though science has long busted the myth that lots of amazing sex or multiple partners will forever leave you loose, the pelvic muscles can lose their tone and strength over time, just like the rest of your body when you cheat on your fitness routine for too long. If you’ve given birth, you’ll also notice a change in the tightness of your vaginal muscles.

All this stuff is totally normal, but your health and pleasure depend on physical fitness to keep your insides in tip-top shape. When those downstairs muscles are properly primed, you’ll enjoy stronger orgasms and more internal pleasure during penetration.

Adding some Kegels to your repertoire is like eating a whole box of chocolate-covered cherries after your regular workout (except orgasms are way better for your body than processed sugars).

Let’s get you started with an easy-peasy Kegel routine, some goodies to spice up your workout, and a little orgasmic game to throw in for motivation.

How the Heck Does a Kegel Work?

You can do a Kegel from wherever you’re sitting or laying down, and that’s what makes them pretty much awesome. Simply clench your vaginal muscles together, kind of like when you’re holding in a fart (yes, really, that’s it!). You’ll feel your butt cheeks and thighs clench up at the same time. To check that you’re doing it right, use those same muscles to stop the flow of urine the next time you’re on the toilet. If the stream stops, you’re doing it right.

Now clench and hold, and see how long you can keep those muscles flexed. Ideally, aim for 5-10 seconds clenched, and then release. Congrats! You’ve done your first Kegel.

Ready, Get Set, Vagina Reps!

Keeping up with your Kegels is no different from any other fitness routine. You’ve got to stick with it on the daily, but thankfully you don’t have to hit the gym. You can do the ol’ squeeze-and-release while sitting at the office, watching a movie, or anywhere that allows you some down time to yourself.

For beginners, start by clenching for 5 seconds, relaxing for 5 seconds, and then repeating this pattern 10 times in sets of 3. Work your way up to clenching for 10 seconds and then relaxing for 10, also aiming for 3 sets of 10 reps.

Twist It Up With Some “Exercise Equipment”

You’ll eventually want to add some resistance to move up to the next level, or maybe you could use a little coaching to get it right. There are all sorts of sexy workout toys to guide your routine or add some light weights to build that kitty into a fierce, dildo-crushing jaguar. (Ok, we’re kidding, you probably won’t crush your sex toy, but your partner will definitely feel the difference.)

Kegel Your Way to an Orgasmic Workout

Once you’ve gotten the kick of Kegel-ing, now comes the fun and games. You can combine your self-pleasure sessions with your daily down-there workout to add in a little reward – orgasms!

Choose a Kegel toy that vibrates as you squeeze, and as you go about your reps, notice how the vibrations ripple through your sacred space. Feel those heavenly vibes stimulate your g-spot and rumble up through your clitoris as you clench. Move your mindset from weightlifting champ to masturbation mode, and enjoy the subtle sensations of the toy as it rocks inside you.

Once you’ve gotten through your usual round of reps, you’ll be all worked up and ready to reach the finish line. Keep going with a few more reps of clench-and-release (or start your Kegel-ciser’s program from the beginning), but this time, slowly massage your clitoris as the Kegel toy’s vibrations bring you to the brink. Hold off for as long as you can, savoring the uniquely subtle pleasure of this deliciously gentle yet deep self-love technique.

When you’re ready, let yourself climax as the Kegel toy gushes forth another 10 second rep of vibration. In this tuned-in state, you’ll feel every last wave as your orgasm matches the toy’s burst of vibes.

Now who said working out has to suck?


Sweat Your Way to Better Sex! – Your Guide to the Orgasmic Power of Kegels By Colleen Godin originally appeared on The Indigo Honey Life

Why Mutual Masturbation is Healthy in Relationships (and How You Can Try It)

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Contrary to one of the many popular sexual myths that pervade our anti-sex culture, masturbation does not stop (nor should it) once you’re in a committed relationship. There’s this weird AF notion that if you masturbate in a relationship, the relationship somehow suffers. Some people even consider masturbating cheating.

This is, to be quite frank, total horseshit.

Masturbating in relationships

Masturbation is not bad nor does it damage partnerships. In fact, studies have shown that masturbating in relationships can actually increase overall libido, leading people to more frequent partnered sexual play.

Masturbation, like pretty much all consensual sex acts, has its place inside and outside of relationships. And not only does it have its place, but it can also even spice things up between the two of you. Namely, when you masturbate WITH your partner.

Here is your complete guide to mutual masturbation, why it’s awesome, and even a few fun tips.

What is mutual masturbation?

It’s hot to watch your partner get themselves off. It just is. Seeing them pleasure themselves is like your own personal porno right there in your bedroom (or wherever you do sex stuff).

You get to see exactly how they like to be touched when they touch themselves and getting to be a part of that intense ecstasy is invigorating. You might even get a few ideas for the next time you fool around together.

Mutual masturbation keeps intimacy alive

Between work, family, friends, and other life commitments, you get exhausted. Masturbation shouldn’t be a replacement for all your sexual play, but it can definitely be on the menu when you’re too tired for sex.

Having sex is extremely important to relationship health. Again, people will say it’s not the most important thing, but that does not mean it isn’t of any import.

Instead of skipping sex, try mutual masturbation. You get to be together and have orgasms without all the effort of oral sex, hand sex, or intercourse. Your partner can lick or bite your nipples, you can make out during the session; whatever feels right. If you’d rather just lie back and both do your own thing, there is nothing wrong with that. The key thing is that you’re engaging in sexual self-love with the person you love. You’re sharing your erotic space, without having sex.

Just because you’re masturbating together doesn’t mean it isn’t intimate (and hot).

Mutual masturbation with sex toys

When it comes to using toys, mutual masturbation is a fantastic opportunity to get spontaneous and adventurous.

If your partner has a prostate, try putting in a butt plug or anal beads while they move their hand up and down their shaft. This gives them dual pleasure and ups the erotic nature of the whole experience.

And don’t forget, butt toys are not gender-exclusive. Every single person can enjoy a butt plug. Try putting in a butt plug while simultaneously using a wand vibrator on the clitoris. The sensations are out of this world.

Feeling vibration around the anus, clitoral hood, and shaft ignites the entire clitoral complex, from bulbs to wings, to glans. Talk about a toe-curling sexual experience.

Don’t forget the lube

Whether you’re masturbating, having intercourse, or performing analingus – lube is an essential tool for maximum pleasure. Lube offers a barrier between your sensitive nether regions and your toys. No one needs to burn their clit off with their vibrator on a maximum setting. Hard pass, mate.

When using butt toys, lube helps you slide your toys into place. A butt hole does not expand or lubricate naturally the way a vagina does. So, lube, lube, and more lube.

Be sure you are using a water-based lubricant with your silicone toys. As much as silicone and oil-based lubes are fun and slippery, they can damage your silicone and that is not fun for anyone.


Why Mutual Masturbation is Healthy in Relationships (and How You Can Try It) by Gigi Engle originally appeared on Anal Play 101

Using Self Pleasure to Tackle Chronic Pain

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Conversations about sex often focus on the fun and steamy side. That’s great! It’s also really important to talk about the not-fun parts of sex — the stuff that gets in the way of experiencing pleasure — and what we can do about it. For people who experience chronic pain, enjoying sex can sometimes be challenging.

What is chronic pain?

About 20 percent of individuals in the general population experience chronic pain of some kind. But how do you know when something is chronic pain and not just, well… pain? There are a few differences.

The definition of chronic pain is any pain that lasts for more than three months. The pain can be continuous or can occur every so often.

Additionally, humans tend to experience pain when there is imminent or actual damage to the body. These pain signals stop when the body is no longer injured or in danger of being injured. However, when you have chronic pain, these pain signals persist even when there is no immediate injury to the body. The pain may have originated with an injury, but chronic pain continues well past the initial damage and may last for months or years. Some of the more commonly experienced types of chronic pain are back pain, headaches, nerve damage, and secondary pain associated with a primary disease like cancer or arthritis. However, there are many types of chronic pain. You might experience chronic pain and not even know it! For example, chronic fatigue and recurring, severe menstrual cramps are both forms of chronic pain.

Chronic pain can be a real wet blanket on your libido…

If you suffer from chronic pain, you might find that pain negatively impacts your sex life. In fact, 50 to 80 percent of individuals with chronic pain feel that it causes problems in their sex life. Chronic pain can cause all sorts of obstacles to enjoying your sexuality. For example, certain positions may aggravate the pain. Pain might reduce your libido. Fear of experiencing pain may cause you to avoid sexual stimulation.

Chronic pain can also impact your self-image and how confident you feel in your own body. It can be difficult to feel sexy when you’re experiencing discomfort. These are all common feelings for people who live with chronic pain. In fact, between 35 and 40 percent of people with chronic pain stop engaging in any type of sexual activity at all.

Combating pain with pleasure

Despite pain acting as a barrier to sexual pleasure, sexual pleasure can also be a key for reducing chronic pain. You might already know that masturbation has the potential to reduce stress, improve sleep, and help soothe menstrual cramps, but did you know that self-stimulation can also help you to manage chronic pain? Yes please to more solo sex health benefits!

A few different studies, mostly conducted by Beverly Whipple and Barry Komisaruk, have shown that when vulva owners self-stimulate the clitoris and the vagina, pain tolerance increases. This means that when you are experiencing sexual pleasure, you feel less pain. Whipple and Komisaruk showed that when masturbating, vulva owners’ pain tolerance increase about 40 percent. When those same vulva owners masturbated to orgasm, their pain tolerance increased 74 percent! These effects lasted throughout the sexual experience and for a few minutes after orgasm.

Not only can masturbation temporarily make you a pain-immune superhero but it could also help boost your confidence and actual sex technique. It’s really common for people living with chronic pain to worry about their own sexual performance and ability to orgasm. Here’s where masturbation is, again, a great tool. A 1991 study showed that women who masturbated had higher overall sexual satisfaction and ability to reach orgasm that women who didn’t masturbate. This may be because masturbation can help you to identify what sensations feel most pleasurable for you and it helps you to practice coming. This is a great time to stick to the philosophy that practice makes perfect.

Additionally, masturbation may help with managing the mental health side-effects of chronic pain. Chronic pain can cause depression because when you suffer from chronic pain, you are in a constant state of stress and discomfort. Up to 85 percent of people living with chronic pain also suffer from depression. Though research has not shown whether masturbation can actually cure or significantly reduce depression, we do know that orgasms release dopamine and oxytocin that help you to feel euphoric and good. This too could offer at least some temporary relief from the heaviness of depressive moods.

Try it out!

So how can you begin incorporating these concepts into your own sex life? A great place to start is with your own hands or with a sex toy that can adapt to your sensory needs in the moment.

If you experience chronic pain, particularly in the lower back and pelvis, certain types of sexual stimulation may be painful. You might have days when vaginal penetration feels good and can help to stimulate and reduce tension in internal pelvic muscles. However, there may be days when penetration is too intense and you prefer to concentrate sexual stimulation on the clitoris.

Experiment with different types of self-stimulation on your clitoris, vulva, and even the G-spot, to see what feels best for you.

Remember, learning to manage chronic pain is often a journey where you test out different strategies and find out what works for you. It can be frustrating when you’re looking for solutions and can’t seem to get the results you want.

Be compassionate with yourself and know that with time, community, and the right resources, it’s totally possible to increase your pleasure and build the relationship with sexuality that you desire.


Using Self Pleasure to Tackle Chronic Pain by Louise Head originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz by Le Wand

LELO Beads Plus Pleasure Set

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For those looking to improve their intimate needs, pelvic floor strength, and achieve longer, stronger orgasms, LELO Beads Plus offers discreet yet intimate strength training with six different weight combinations for improved sexual sensations. Bringing intimate strength training to a whole new standard…LELO Beads Plus has arrived.

Put your strength to the test with this luxurious set of six interchangeable weighted beads. Offering a greater variety of different strength training combinations, LELO Beads Plus gently vibrate kinetically in response to your body’s movements, helping you gradually achieve stronger, longer orgasms for enhanced pleasure.

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Discrete Pelvic Floor Fitness – Offers an efficient pelvic muscle workout when worn during a variety of activities such as walking, swimming –or even sitting. Using reflexive pelvic muscle contractions, a simple exercise routine can be followed consistently with minimal effort.

Longer, Stronger Orgasms – Experience heightened intimacy with beads that can be used for foreplay or strength training for better orgasms.

Effective, Self-Tailored Strength Training – Comprised of two 28g, two 37g, and two 60g beads for a variety of resistance training combinations that help build strength over time.

Added Variety of Strength Training Combinations – 6 weighted beads to choose from mean 44% more combinations

Extra-Soft Silicone – Ultra-smooth premium silicone that’s extra soft to the touch

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Features:

  • Kegel training set
  • 6 Interchangeable weighted beads fit into one harness
  • Comprised of two each – 28g, 37g, and 60g beads
  • Smooth design is incredibly easy to keep clean
  • Waterproof
  • 1 Year warranty and 10-year quality guarantee provided by LELO

Beads Plus 5

In the Box:

  • Silicone harness
  • 2 x 28 gr / 0.06 lb Beads
  • 2 x 37 gr / 0.08 lb Beads
  • 2 x 60 gr / 0.13 lb beads
  • Satin storage bag
  • Warranty Card
  • Manual

Body-safe silicone, ABS Plastic, Nylon string

Harness size – 3.5 x 1.3 x 0.6”

Bead size – 1.3”

Good Clean Love Rebalance pH-Balanced Personal Moisturizing & Cleansing Wipes

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Feel cleansed and refreshed with Good Clean Love’s organic, pH-balancing wipes.

Made with premium aloe and soothing botanical extracts, these biodegradable personal wipes help eliminate odor by supporting a healthy vaginal ecosystem post-workout, after an intimate moment or during everyday cleansing.

Use Rebalance to cleanse, refresh, and eliminate odor on the go. Daily use may help restore optimal pH and salt balance.

Rebalance Wipes are made without parabens, petrochemicals, or artificial fragrance.

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Key Ingredients:

  • Aloe Vera – Known for soothing properties, low-micro variety allows for low preservative levels
  • Calendula – Well-known for anti-inflammatory properties and believed to aid in relaxation
  • Organic Rayon – Compostable, biodegradable, and made from non-GMO fibers

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Features:

  • Individually wrapped personal wipes for convenient on the go freshening
  • pH Balancing formula
  • Accurately matches healthy vaginal pH levels
  • Fresh botanicals
  • Formulated for daily use
  • Microbiome-friendly
  • No parabens, petrochemicals or artificial fragrances
  • Includes 12 individually wrapped wipes

She-Ology 5 Piece Wearable Vaginal Dilator Set by CalExotic

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Revitalize and strengthen vaginal muscles with the contoured She-Ology 5-Piece Wearable Vaginal Dilator Set.

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The uniquely designed 5-piece dilator kit is ergonomically curved and gradually sized to allow for gentle dilation.

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The premium silicone probes have a curved base for gentle insertion and stimulation, and have a spot to add your own mini bullet to aid in blood flow and muscle relaxation.

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The graduated set has been created to rejuvenate vaginal muscles and reduce insertion discomfort with every use.

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Use the small dilator to begin and as you gently exercise and increase the elasticity of muscles, advance to the larger probes.

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The hypoallergenic premium silicone is body safe, unscented and phthalate free to keep you most sensitive spots, happy and healthy.

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Features:

  • 5-piece wearable silicone dilator set for gradual dilation
  • Designed for comfort and easy mobility
  • May restore and revive vaginal strength and comfort
  • Unique, wearable design for comfort and easy mobility
  • Ergonomically curved for ease of use
  • Dilators may accommodate a bullet vibrator if desired (not included) to aid in relaxing the muscles
  • Dilator guide from Dr. Sherry included
  • May be used in or out of the water
  • Silicone
  • Dilator 1 – 3.33” x 1.18”
  • Dilator 2 – 3.12” x.97”
  • Dilator 3 – 3.02” x.85”
  • Dilator 4 – 2.96” x.74”
  • Dilator 5 – 2.67” x.53”