Unicorn Special Edition Sets from COTR brands b-Vibe, Le Wand and The Cowgirl

Introducing three new Unicorn Special Edition Sets from COTR brands b-Vibe, Le Wand and The Cowgirl.

The sets feature one of COTR’s signature pleasure devices reimagined and paired with an assortment of Unicorn-themed accessories and merch.

Each set is pleasure-centric, all-inclusive, and encourages exploration of the many ways to stimulate the body. Featuring a popular b-Vibe plug, Le Wand massager, and premium sex machine, the Unicorn Collection offers something for every body.

The fun, magical Unicorn-themed art is incredibly eye-catching, colorful and inviting. Not only does it adorn the pleasure devices themselves but is also featured on the included array of playful accessories and collectible items.

b-Vibe’s Unicorn Plug is a medium-sized plug with a removable multicolor tail and a twist texture, six vibration patterns and ten levels of intensity. The set also comes with the “Guide to Living Your Unicorn Life,” a unicorn backpack, glow-in-the-dark stickers, enamel pin and the “Guide to Anal Play.”

Le Wand’s Unicorn Wand is the classic rechargeable Le Wand that’s been updated with unicorn-themed art on the handle and offers vibrations in 10 speeds and 20 patterns. This special edition set includes a textured “horn” attachment, a drawstring pouch for storage and travel, an educational “Pleasure Guide,” a card for gifting, stickers, a keychain and an iron-on patch.

The Unicorn Premium Sex Machine is the latest reinvention of the classic Cowgirl, updated to be gender-inclusive. The Unicorn Set features two attachments offering penetrative and non-penetrative stimulation, a corded LED remote, a detachable rainbow tail flogger, a rainbow-tinted floor mat and matching slip-resistant silicone base.

 

 

Le Wand Unicorn Wand Limited Edition Set

Get ready to enter a fantasyland of unicorns, rainbows, and magically powerful orgasms with the new Le Wand Unicorn Wand — An 8-piece limited edition set for solo and partnered play!

Featuring 10 distinctive, rumbly vibration speeds and 20 vibration patterns, the Le Wand Unicorn Wand provides satisfying vaginal or anal stimulation with the included twisty texture attachment. The Unicorn Wand’s soft silicone head and flexible neck allow it to conform to your body for comfort, while the long handle and easy-to-use controls allow for effortless maneuvering.

Every item in the Le Wand Unicorn Wand Limited Edition Set is there to remind you of the magical charm of pleasure. These include:

  • A limited-edition Unicorn Wand
  • Silicone texture attachment for internal stimulation
  • A drawstring pouch for convenient storage and adventures on the go
  • A gift card, keychain, woven patch, and a set of puffy stickers adorned with unicorns
  • Brand new Guide to Living Your Best Unicorn Life

Features:

  • Massage wand
  • 10 Speeds and 20 vibration patterns
  • Easy controls
  • Includes a unicorn horn textured attachment for internal stimulation
  • Also includes storage pouch, gifting card, keychain, woven patch, and a set of puffy unicorn stickers
  • Rechargeable – charging cord included
  • 1 Year warranty provided by Le Wand
  • Body-Safe Silicone & ABS

 

b-vibe Unicorn Plug Limited Edition Set

Gallop into a world of sunshine, lollipops, and butt stuff with the new b-Vibe Unicorn Plug Limited Edition Set — A 6-piece collection to thrust you into the magnificent world of anal!

Featuring a uniquely magical twist texture to our medium-sized plug, this vibrating hole horn is specially designed to send you into euphoria with 6 vibration patterns and 10 levels of intensity. Find a treasure trove of fun at the end of the rainbow with the plug’s 19″ removable tail. Made from easy-to-wash synthetic fibers, the multicolor locks are perfect for fantasy play and can be easily removed to enjoy your mystical plug anywhere.

The b-Vibe Unicorn Plug Limited Edition Set features the ultimate fun accessories to show off your pride:

  • Vibrating textured unicorn plug with a removable 19″ rainbow tail
  • Glow-in-the-dark sticker set
  • A limited-edition b-Vibe enamel pin
  • A unicorn backpack to strut your stuff around town
  • The sex-educator-approved Guide to Anal Play
  • A brand-new Guide to Living Your Best Unicorn Life

Features:

  • Vibrating plug
  • Swirl texture
  • 10 Speeds and 6 patterns
  • Optional 19” tail clips on magnetically
  • Also includes sticker set, b-Vibe enamel pin, backpack, and 2 guides
  • USB rechargeable – charging cable included
  • 1 Year warranty provided by b-vibe

 

The Cowgirl Unicorn Premium Sex Machine

Get ready to ride the rainbow.

Fill your treasure cave with magic on our Unicorn Premium Sex Machine, a horn-y special edition twist on the classic Cowgirl design.

Gear up for solo or partner play wherever your partner might be! Use the LED remote for quick and easy settings adjustment, or use the app to play with your partner at a distance. Take full control of your power, rotation, and pattern at the touch of a dial.

This Special Edition Premium Sex Machine features a horn-y twist on two fun fantasy attachments for penetrative and non-penetrative stimulation while retaining the same award-winning functions of The Cowgirl: 1200 RPM of ultra-powerful vibrations, 360 swivel rotation, a slip-resistant silicone base, and made entirely of premium, vegan leather. But this 5-piece set includes even more.

Featuring a corded LED remote, two unique penetrative and non-penetrative attachments, a detachable rainbow tail flogger, and an ethereal skies floor mat to help contain all the powerful vibrations from this supercharged sex machine. Plus, with 400 lbs of weight capacity, The Unicorn is your perfect adventure partner for solo or couple’s rides.

Features:

  • Premium sex machine
  • 1200 RPM of ultra-powerful vibrations
  • 360 Swivel rotation
  • Slip-resistant silicone base
  • Made entirely of vegan leather
  • Includes 2 textured attachments
  • Also includes a detachable 19.5″ rainbow tail flogger and a 31.5” x 35.5”  floor mat
  • Control with the LED remote or via the app
  • 1 Year warranty provided by The Cowgirl

Masturbation Mythbusting: Solo Sex & Social Distancing

 

We’ve all been discovering ourselves a bit more often than normal this past year, but can too much solo sex ruin your next in-person encounter? LMFT Shadeen Francis breaks down a Q&A on socially distant solo sex in this edition of Masturbation Mythbusting.

Myth 1: Long-distance sex is less intimate than in person.

Q: I am socially distanced from my partner but we want to still be sexual with each other. I don’t know if we can still connect. I have heard of sexting and stuff but I’m not really sure how. I don’t know if it’ll feel like intimacy if we are just sending pictures and touching ourselves.

A: I know it’s not the same, but connection while socially distanced is not impossible! The research on dating during the pandemic is actually showing that separation has made people more intentional about dating: they are spending more high-quality quality-time with one another, are having deeper and emotional conversations, and are finding ways to be more creative on dates. So there is hope!

Technology is a tool, and we can use it to help us overcome barriers to connection. Let’s start with getting some clarity on “intimacy” between you and your partner. What feels like an intimate connection to you?

Is it seeing each other’s faces? Then you might try being sexual on a secure video platform. Does hearing their voice feel most intimate for you? Think about exchanging lust-filled voice notes or having sex dates over the phone. Do their words really inspire you? Try writing erotic letters or sensual emails. You might also explore Bluetooth controlled sex toys for some long-distance sexual touch! There is a lot of room to get creative, but it starts by thinking about what you need.

Myth 2: Too much solo sex can ruin partnered sex.

Q: I love having all this time for solo sex but worry about when it’s time to date again. What if nobody feels as good as my vibrator? Have I ruined myself for future lovers? Should I just skip the dating scene and marry my toys now?

A: You can go ahead and cancel that reception – it is a widespread myth that vibrating sex toys desensitize your vulvas to partners. Although human bodies can rarely imitate the speed, intensity, or consistency of sex toys, masturbation does not put your partnered sex at risk. On the contrary, it most often helps people better understand what arouses them and what feels good on their bodies.

Be sure to share what you learn with your future partners. Whether it is a tour of your toy collection or a sexy game of Simon says, it is important that you help your partners understand what you enjoy. We are ultimately responsible for our pleasure, but it is always nice to have some helping hands! And if you’ve already committed to marrying your vibrator, consider making your partnered sexual experiences a 3-way and include your favorite toy in the action!

Myth 3: You have to have solo sex to be a sexual person.

Q: I think I am asexual and like sex but what if I don’t really enjoy masturbation? It feels good and I’m not ashamed I just don’t really like it. Am I just not actually sex-positive?

A: Then don’t do it! My belief is that sex is always about pleasure, and that includes solo sex. If masturbating does not feel or sound pleasurable to you, that is okay. You absolutely do not have to masturbate to be a sexual person, nor do you have to touch yourself to feel pleasure.

Being sex-positive is about respect for the diversity of sexual identities and genders, honoring people’s boundaries, and supporting everyone’s freedom to make informed choices about their sexual lives. Sex positivity doesn’t mean any kind of sex is necessary! Think about what would feel good to you and protect intentional, uninterrupted time for that. It could be a good meal, a long walk, a favorite movie, an art project — whatever you choose, if you can do it without shame or harm to yourself or others, it is perfect.

Masturbation Mythbusting: Solo Sex & Social Distancing by Shadeen Francis originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

Masturbation Pleasure in Every Room

It’s time to focus on what gets you off with pleasure for the body and mind in your sex space.

What do I mean by sex space? Simply put, it’s the space where you typically prefer to have sex in your home. You know, the boom-boom room, the nookie corner, or simply put- your playroom.

I recently moved to Detroit aka “The D”, to a new apartment with lots of space. Frankly, that means there’s a lot of sex space that I need to christen. For the most part, in my solo sexual experiences, I’ve always considered the bedroom to be the epicenter of play. A little warm-up in the shower, or maybe a hot sex scene in a film gets me going. Then I head straight to the bedroom!

So, I’ve been exploring new ways to bring my toys and play outside the bedroom and I’ve been enjoying the opportunities each room has to offer.

Living Room

Obviously, there’s space to make anything go in the living room. From wands to butt plugs to pussy pumps, sex machines, strokers, and more, the living room has been my warmup space for pleasure-making since my first place. However, I noticed that there are often missing essentials needed in the living room. I mean, there’s always the standard pleasure accessories needed, right?! Lube, toy cleaner, and a towel for quick clean up are always a part of my experience.

My go-to pleasure tools will have to be chosen in the moment, depending on what mood I’m feeling. So, if you can, a small drawer or secret stash with a few toys (small and large)- and those previously mentioned pleasure accessories- are clutch to have in your living room.

Bathroom

Playing in the shower is power!

Make sure to bring lube into the shower ya’ll! I know some of yous (with my Philly accent) are saying water is enough to create the moisture that I need. Incorrect, my friend.

Your shower water simply cannot act as lubrication for your body. Body wash, soap, or hair conditioner can cause irritation leading to yeast or bacterial infections, UTIs, or unwanted dryness. So lube, lube, lube.

If you’re not playing with a silicone pleasure tool (silicone lube is not compatible with a silicone toy!), use silicone lube for the shower. It will reduce friction and irritation during your play. Silicone lube will stay on your body even in the shower, making it ideal for sex in the shower. Plus, it cleans off fast with soap and water. Just make sure you clean the shower surfaces afterward since this lube is ultra-slippery.

Office

Ever since the pandemic, my home office has been my mecca for educating folks all over the world! This is my new normal, Dolly Parton’s 9 to 5, Zoom meeting professional style that I’ve had to adapt to, hard core. Yet, there are some things that were needed to establish a work-life balance.

One strong essential to that balance was to implement breaks in between my daily routines. And yes, that break can sometimes include a masturbation session. Believe me friends, a daily mid-dose of masturbation equals rejuvenation and serotonin released.

Kitchen

Although the kitchen can be questionable and seldomly used as a sexual playground, there are a few erotic game moves that can be enjoyed, especially with the use of sex toys.

Few things to consider, lube comes in many varieties, and adding lube is a totally a plus. Enter the ultimate kitchen cabinet lube- coconut oil. This edible and natural personal lubricant absorbs into the body with its moisturizing properties. Plus, it’s beneficial for the skin. Just make sure to separate your cooking oil from your personal lube!

Your selection of toy play is endless. Hell, you can ride a sex machine with the door opened sucking on a popsicle on a hot day. Or have a palm-sized vibe in your underwear, sitting on a chair, while eating ice cream, your favorite cereal, or whatever your vulva and taste buds desire!

Add a little fun game to mix. Try to masturbate before your timer on your microwave or toaster oven finishes cooking your upcoming meal. Not only can you increase your libido multiple times, but you also enjoy beating your record over and over again! Huzzah!

Wherever you decide to create a new sex space, make sure you enjoy it more than once. It takes us a few times to get adjusted to playing in a new scene, so have patience and remember that novelty adds fun to your solo and partnered sex.

Quick tip for roommates, privacy is key. So, feel free to stuff a towel or blanket at the bottom of your closed door to help soundproof your sex space.

…And if you live in an apartment, consider toys that might be a little quieter from your collection, unless you’re happy to share your sexcapades with your neighbors! LOL!

Masturbation Pleasure in Every Room by Tracy Felder originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

Masturbation Mythbusting: Can We Be Too Reliant on Vibrators?

Masturbation is a socially-distant activity that makes “self-isolation” more like “self-investigation.” But after months of going to town with your favorite sex toy, (the pandemic version of “going out”) you may be wondering if you’re getting too reliant on your vibrator. You think about her when you hear a love song at the supermarket. You dream about her at night. At this point, you can’t even picture getting off without her. Are you addicted? Codependent? Do you need to scale it back? Is it time to kill the buzz?

Before we dive into the “vibrator addiction” debate, I’d like to bring your attention to, well, you. If you’ve found a sex toy that brings you pleasure—congrats! Unless you went to a super progressive private school where you called teachers by their first names, your sex ed class likely skipped over pleasure/masturbation/orgasms, (especially for women/humans with vaginas).

The lack of sex-positive sex education, plus the lack of positive media representation, plus the immense societal stigma and shaming of “female”/humans with vaginas pleasure hinders women/people with vaginas from learning about their bodies and their orgasms in an empowering, safe, and non-judgemental way. It’s also a large reason behind the orgasm gap, or the studied and documented discrepancy in orgasms between cis men and cis women. (Like this 2017 study from Chapman University, that found on average, straight men orgasm 95% of the time during partnered sex, while straight women only finish 65% of the time).

Needless to say, women/people with vaginas aren’t exactly set up for sexual success. From slut-shaming to contraceptive deserts, the road to “owning our pleasure” is hardly an easy one. It’s a big deal to charge of sexuality, prioritize your pleasure, and find what works for you and your body. And if your vibe is bringing good things to your sex life — you don’t need to feel embarrassed or worried about it. The “don’t get too reliant on your vibrator” rhetoric isn’t rooted in science or anatomy, it’s rooted in sexual shame and fear-mongering.

Take this 2009 study from the Center for Sexual Health Promotion, Indiana University, Bloomington, and The Kinsey Institute, of 3,800 women aged 18-60 that found vibrator use was linked to heightened physical and psychological well-being and positive sexual function. Or this 1996 study from Syracuse University that found the majority of assigned female at birth (AFAB) vibrator users had better and more orgasms when using vibrators during both solo and partnered sex.

Pretend for a second that you’ve never used a vibrator. Let’s, say, you only masturbate with your hands, and you manually stimulate yourself when having partnered sex. Would you be worried you’re “too reliant” on your fingers? Addicted to hand stuff? Probably not.

So, let’s get rid of this fear of “vibrator addiction.” Marie Kondo that shit and put it in the Goodwill bin with that paisley Free People top you were always iffy about. If “vibrator addiction” doesn’t exist, (and for the record, vibration addiction doesn’t exist) then what are you questioning? Why are you worried you’re “too reliant” on your vibrator? That’s where you’re gonna find your answers.

For example:

  1. Are you getting bored of your masturbation routine?
  2. Are you losing sensation on your clit? Are you unable to finish without a vibrator?
  3. Are you sheepish about using toys with your partner? Are you afraid that toys make sex less “intimate” or “natural”?
  4. Are you intrigued by using your hands and wondering why you stopped using them?

Some of these are practical problems with practical fixes. Yet, some of these are more emotional/societal issues that call for open communication and an attitude adjustment.

  1. What to do if you’re in a masturbation rut:

It’s time to switch things up. Masturbate in front of a mirror, on a chair, or in a new position. Listen to audio porn. Try using your hands instead of a toy. Masturbate in a different room or different part of your bedroom. Try a metal or glass toy. Try a butt plug. Masturbate on FaceTime with someone. Use lube. Make masturbating a novel experience for yourself, treat it like you would treat a hot hookup, put on your sex undies, light a candle. Romance yourself.

  1. What to do if you’re worried about losing sensation or have noticed some sensation loss:

First and foremost, don’t panic. You haven’t broken your clit. If you really like to crank your vibe, or if you tend to put direct pressure on your clit to orgasm quickly, you’ve likely gotten used to the intense sensation, and may “rely” on that to finish. (I.e. your tolerance for sensation is higher, ergo it takes more sensation to finish.) For now! Rest assured you can ease yourself back into finishing from other types of stimulation. Try using a lower setting, or using your hands for a bit, and masturbating without the “goal” or having an orgasm, meaning playing around and following good sensations, not rushing to finish. Use lube. Use more lube. Take deep breathes and try to relax into it. You’re not going to cum if you’re stressed out about not cumming.

Yet, this is where the attitude adjustment comes in, if you’ve scaled back on the sex toys and you still find you’re unable to cum without a vibrator…then my dear, use your vibrator. Lest we forget, the majority of people with vaginas can’t orgasm from penetration alone. That means, we need extra stimulation (most often clitoral) as we’re getting it on. If you’ve found something that makes you feel good, use it! As long as everything is consensual, there are no bad orgasms.

  1. What to do if you’re sheepish about using toys with a partner or worry that it makes sex less “intimate”:

Using toys doesn’t make sex “intimate” or “natural”. It just doesn’t. Frankly, if something is making you have a better time, that sounds more intimate. Using a toy with a partner will likely take the pressure off when and if you’re going to finish and let you relax into the moment. It will nip any “How can I never finish” resentments, and let you connect deeper to your partner. It will help your partner understand what sensations you like. It may even help you and your partner orgasm at the same time. If all of that is not intimacy, I don’t what is.

Adding a toy in the bedroom doesn’t have to be some big or weird conversation, you can talk about it the way you’d talk about protection, “Hey, mind if I grab my vibe?” Or express that toys are there to heighten the experience you’re having, “It feels so good when you’re in me, I’m gonna put my vibe on my clit to really send me over the edge.” There is no competition between your partner (or your own hand!) and a toy, consider them all like sexy tapas, they all taste different and there’s room for them all.

  1. What to do if you’re intrigued by using your hands and wondering why you stopped using them to masturbate:

Good question! Why did you stop? Are you uncomfortable touching yourself? Were toys quicker? Do toys feel better? Do you like them more? If you’re feeling intrigued by your hands, try ditching your toy for a week.

Bring a hand mirror and watch yourself. Learn what sensations you feel in different places. Use lube. Remember you can always grab a toy when you need it. And if you realize you prefer using toys, great. We welcome all pleasure, manual or mechanical.

 

Masturbation Mythbusting: Can We Be Too Reliant on Vibrators? by Griffin Wynne originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

Masturbation Mythbusting: Is Squirt Pee?

Photo by Dainis Graveris on Unsplash

If your only experience with squirting is limited to seeing it in porn, you’ve probably convinced yourself that there’s no way that act is real.

While there hasn’t been as much research as other bodily functions dedicated to figuring out the science behind squirting, documentation of ejaculation in vulva owners goes all the way back to the kama sutra. And numerous studies since have found that some vulva owners do indeed expel fluid during orgasm. A study from 1984 concluded that 54% of vulva owners experienced an “orgasmic expulsion of fluid” at least one time and 14% experienced it almost every time they reached orgasm. A 2017 study concluded that 69% of vulva owners between 18 and 39 had experienced ejaculation during orgasm. So yes, squirting is real.

Squirt is pee

First, I want to clarify that there is some urine in precum and ejaculatory fluid in penis owners. So, yes— there is some pee in all ejaculate fluid, but it’s not all pee. It’s all a combination of ejaculatory fluid as well as urinary fluid. There is both urea and creatinine, which can be mistaken for urine. Ejaculate is an alkaline liquid, similar to prostate fluid; think of it like ejaculate from a penis without the sperm (like juice without pulp, if you will). The liquid is usually clear to yellowish, and thinner than the slippery lubrication vaginas create. If the similarity to pee still makes you feel uncomfortable, try peeing right before sexual activity. If your bladder isn’t full, you can rest assured that whatever’s coming out of you is not pee.

Vulva owners have tissue surrounding their urethra, called the urethral sponge. This is all part of the internal clitoris (the G-spot is the spot closest to the root of the clit) and is actually very similar to the erectile tissue in a penis. When you’re turned on, the clitoris and urethral sponge swell and essentially become erect. There are tiny glands in and right next to the urethra on the front wall of the vagina, called Skene’s or paraurethral glands, and they can fill with fluid when you’re turned on. The Skene gland is biologically similar to the prostate. Urine is present in the fluid because these glands are so close to the urethra. Part of the reason this myth is so unending is because, when vulva owners are going to squirt, they often feel like they have to pee. That feeling is misleading because when you’re turned on, the tissue around your urethra gets filled with blood, which will press against your bladder, making you feel like you need to pee. But trust me, it doesn’t mean you’re actually going to pee yourself. The simple solution? Go to the bathroom before playtime. So then, with an empty bladder, you can be confident that you’re squirting and definitely not peeing.

Squirting and Ejaculation are the same thing

These are harder to define since squirting isn’t a medical term and it’s hard to quantify colloquial terms. Squirting typically describes the release of a fluid that’s clear and colorless, where ejaculation is used to describe the release of another kind of fluid that is often white and milky, includes prostate-specific antigens (PSAs) and other compounds found in semen. Squirting typically involves a larger amount of fluid being released, sometimes described as “gushing” or “geyser-like,” whereas female ejaculation alone is usually a pretty small amount of fluid. These two different types of release can happen independently or simultaneously of one another. This makes it not only harder to research, but to explain the information. it’s likely more accurate to say that there is ejaculation, which is the same as squirting.

All vulva-owners can squirt

So, yes and no. While I wouldn’t tell anyone that they’re incapable of squirting, I also wouldn’t say that everyone squirts. This research suggests that anywhere between 10 and 50 percent of vulva owners noticed involuntary ejaculation. The issue is that it’s not always obvious that it happened. If you’ve ever had sex and found yourself in a big wet spot on the bed, it’s possible that you squirted without ever noticing. Think of it like sweating; while everyone sweats, some people sweat more than others. Some people’s Skene’s glands may be on the smaller side or simply less active than others, or there might be scar tissue blocking the ducts. You might be holding yourself back because you might mistakenly think you’re going to pee. Or perhaps, you just might not have ever had their urethral sponge stimulated enough (or in the necessary way) to actually ejaculate. It can take a lot of exploration of your own body, just don’t put too much pressure on yourself, it can be counterproductive.

The porn you’ve seen may make it look easy, but not everyone finds it pleasurable or even comfortable. The bottom line is Everyone is different. The body doesn’t follow rules for experiencing pleasure. The amount of liquid can also vary wildly from person to person. Some will squirt a lot, others might be more of a drip, while some can make puddles that look like they wet the bed. Typically the fluid expelled is only about a teaspoon and doesn’t usually make it across the room, but results will vary depending on your body.

Keep in mind that the clit is more than the little numb you can see. Think of an iceberg and how most of it is actually unseen under the water; the legs of the clitoris are the same, they criss cross through the pelvis under the skin where you wouldn’t be able to see. The legs of the clitoris extend four inches below the surface of the skin, branching out into legs and bulbs on either side of the vaginal canal. So how those nerve endings respond to different stimulation or how sensitive they are will differ from person to person. Sure, stimulating the g-spot, the spongy area of the front wall of the vagina about half-way between the opening and the cervix, makes some people squirt. But that’s not the only path you can or should take to that particular destination.

You can’t train yourself to squirt

Squirting is just one of the many ways to experience pleasure, and luckily pleasure is something that can be learned and expanded on. Squirting is mostly involuntary, but you can take time to figure out your body’s preferences, but there are no shortcuts. You’ll really need to invest time in experimenting with your own body to figure out the moves or combination of sensations that will get you there. If your partner has fantasies of bringing you to a mind-blowing orgasm, solo exploration can be the best way to get to know your body. And once you figure out what works best for you, it’s easier to communicate what works to your partner.

When trying to squirt, start by warming your body up and making sure you’re fully aroused before you even stimulate your G-spot, which is located on the front of the wall of the vagina and has a noticeable spongy texture. To find it, curve your fingers and use the pads and not your fingertips to locate that spongy tissue. When you feel a ridge, you’ll know you’re in the right place. You can add toys to help you reach if your fingers can’t easily access your g-spot. Also remember that the G-spot isn’t the only ticket to gush city, you can also try a wand with powerful vibrations which might pull forth your first squirt! Try experimenting with your own preferences and see what brings you the most pleasure. It might even be a blended orgasm from putting a curved attachment on your favorite wand to get there.

Just trust the journey and enjoy the pleasure you’re experiencing along the way. When you put pressure yourself to squirt or even just reach orgasm you’re less likely to be able to do it. Reaching the big O is as much mental as it is physical. Being in a positive headspace is equally as important as the physical things you’re doing. How will you let go and squirt if you can’t get out of your own head? Don’t overthink it. Patience, practice and just enjoying the journey is all you need!

Squirting is the same as an orgasm

While squirting and orgasm can often happen together, they aren’t mutually exclusive. Sometimes folks will squirt without an orgasm; sometimes, they’ll squirt while orgasming, and sometimes they’ll squirt after they get off, especially if you’re feeling relaxed. Orgasm is talking about the sensation of pleasure and release accompanied by muscle contractions. Where ejaculation is talking about the release of fluid which may, or may not occur together.

The Bottom Line?

Squirting is no myth, though the jury is still out on the exact mechanics behind it. But regardless of what’s in it, squirting feels good for many people, and we should encourage and celebrate all pleasurable sexual experiences. So if it feels good, don’t hold back: Wet the bed!

Masturbation Mythbusting: Is Squirt Pee? by Carly S. originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

Le Wand Chrome Little Pleasures Set

Spark joy daily with the Little Pleasures Set that includes two of Le Wand’s coveted Chrome mini vibes for instant sensual satisfaction.

Featuring Le Wand Bullet and Point rechargeable vibes in a lustrous Special Edition Silver Chrome finish, each powerful palm-sized vibe delivers its own unique stimulation. Le Wand Point features a rumbly motor and contoured shape, approved by Oprah Magazine. The fan-favorite Bullet comes with a removable textured silicone sleeve and ring for added pleasure.

Each vibe is USB rechargeable with the included charger and can be stored inside the set’s velvety storage pouch. Put your sex-positivity on display with the adorable branded Le Wand pin that’s also included.

Each Le Wand Little Pleasures Set includes:

Le Wand Bullet Rechargeable Vibrator – Petite power – Sometimes, powerful things come in petite packages. With its body safe metallic casing and removable, textured silicone sleeve, Le Wand Bullet packs enough power and pleasure to take you over the edge.

Le Wand Point Rechargeable Vibrator – discreet & decadent – The ultimate in hands-free masturbation, this deliciously weighted lay-on palm-sized vibe features a body-safe silicone contoured shape and intuitive controls for seamless stimulation.

Textured Silicone Sleeve & Ring – sumptuous sensations – Enhance your bullet and experience new ways to play with the two removable textured silicone attachments that will heighten your sensations.

Le Wand Enamel Pin – subtle swank – Show pride in your pleasure with the stylish enamel Le Wand pin.

Micro-Suede Travel Pouch – pretty practicality – Carry your kit with low-key luxury in the provided microsuede storage and travel pouch.

Charging Cables – keep the power flowing with the included charging cables that plugs in to any USB port.

Give the ultimate gift of good vibes with the pleasure pack’s perfectly presentable packaging.

Features:

  • Giftable set in keepsake packaging
  • Bullet with 11 vibration modes and 4 intensity levels
  • Weighted lay-on vibe with 15 vibration modes and 6 intensity levels
  • Intuitive controls
  • Waterproof
  • USB rechargeable
  • Charging cable included
  • 1 Year warranty provided by Le Wand

In the Box:

  • Le Wand Point – 1.9” x 3.78” x 1.38”
  • Le Wand Bullet – 3.11” x 0.93”
  • Removeable silicone bullet sleeve
  • Optional textured silicone attachment
  • Storage bag
  • Charging cables
  • Enamel pin

TTOTM Introduces Feel My Power 2021

A wand like this in your store is a power move worth stepping into…

Commune with COTR  March 24th 11am PT / 2pm ET as they explore the 2021 limited edition Feel My Power Wand.

They’ll share the history of the three campaigns, the purpose behind Feel My Power and how they bring the campaign to life online and in retail.

Can I get some “POWER” for that?!

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Le Wand Feel My Power 2021 Special Edition

The world’s most sought-after pleasure wand is back again! Meet the new Le Wand Feel My Power 2021 Special Edition Rechargeable Vibrating Massager.

Another year. Another designer. Yet Le Wand’s mission for Feel My Power has stayed the same — to champion every body and create a wand to inspire self-love and amplify your power.

This year, Le Wand has joined forces with the incredibly talented New York-based artist, Jade Purple Brown, to create an extra-special, limited edition of their OG wand wrapped in empowering custom illustrations.

Jade Purple Brown’s work uses strong figures, vibrant colors, and messages of optimism to create new, dynamic worlds of individuality and empowerment.

“The purpose of my art is to encourage myself and possibly others to feel more optimistic and free.” – Jade Purple Brown

The 9-piece collection embraces everything that has made Feel My Power a tried-and-true classic among pleasure seekers since its inception in 2019.

The Le Wand Massager offers a body-safe silicone head, a flexible neck and a lengthy handle with easy-to-use controls that allow for smooth maneuvering. And, it’s fully USB rechargeable.

Le Wand Massager Features:

  • Soft silicone head
  • 10 vibration speeds
  • 20 vibration patterns
  • Flexible neck
  • Premium packaging
  • Rechargeable battery
  • 3 Hour charge provides 3 hours of play
  • Includes multiple international wall plugs to make sure you can charge your Le Wand anywhere in the world
  • 1 year warranty provided by Le Wand/ COTR
  • Lifetime quality guarantee provided by Le Wand/ COTR
  • Silicone and ABS
  • 13.39” x 2.45”
  • Please note, this massager is neither waterproof nor splashproof

Includes all the swag you need to feel YOUR power in and out of the bedroom:

  • Le Wand Feel My Power Rechargeable Vibrating Massager
  • Travel Bag
  • Nail Stickers
  • Feel My Power Sticker
  • Magnet Set
  • Set of 5 Notecards
  • Bolo Tie
  • Keychain
  • Pleasure Guide

What is Edging?

If you’ve never heard of “edging,” then prepare to have your mind blown.

Whether you do it solo or with a partner, practicing edging is something that’s going to take your orgasms to a whole new level.

What is edging?

Edging is when you bring yourself—or your partner—as close to an orgasm as possible, to the edge so to speak, then STOP.

While the initial thought of this might coincide with thinking, “Why would anyone do this?” From a pleasure standpoint, it really pays off: stronger and possibly even longer orgasms. What’s not to love?

Although, for the most part, edging is something that people with penises tend to practice more than people with vulvas, don’t think for one moment that being a vulva-owner is standing in the way of your ability to edge.

Why does edging feel so good?

Think about it this way: You’re with your partner (or yourself) and there’s a lot of sexual teasing going on. This teasing leaves you wanting more while the blood rushes to your genital, become engorged, as you reach peak arousal. There’s a good chance that once those sensations hit (that wonderful ache of desire), your need to climax is at an all-time high.

Now imagine taking that level of teasing and focusing it on more genital play. The more you bring yourself—or your partner—close to the edge of climax, the more powerful and intense the orgasm will be. It’s the increased and prolonged arousal that, when let loose, is the climax of climaxes.

But there’s more to edging than mind-blowing orgasms.

What’s the history behind edging?

For people with penises, edging gives them the opportunity to have more control over how long they can keep an erection before coming. In fact, edging was created to help men with premature ejaculation.

In 1956, Dr. James H. Semans, a Duke University surgeon and urologist, published an article in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in which he began his introduction with, “premature ejaculation is very undesirable… it may lead to sexual impotence.” His solution for this was for penis-owners to enjoy external stimulation by a partner “until the premonitory sensation of ejaculation.” Next, the stimulation would be stopped before climax and the sensation to come no longer existed. Then, roughly 30 seconds later, the cycle was repeated. The method worked and became known as the “stop-start” technique.

How do you get started with edging?

As with most things involving our bodies, going solo and exploring is the best way to start edging. So get in there, use a hand mirror, touch different parts of your body—your vulva, your penis, your perineum, your anus, your clitoris—experiment with it all.

Edging for penis-owners:

If you’ve been masturbating long enough, then you already know what works. Some like the stroking method, others like squeezing, while others prefer more of a twisting type motion. It’s these preferable techniques to which you want to stick.

But, because you’re going to stop yourself from having an orgasm, just before you climax, you want to squeeze the glans (otherwise known as the head) of your penis. Once you’ve nipped your orgasm in the bud, you want to wait about 30 seconds, then get back to masturbating. You can do this as many times as it feels good to do it.

If your concern is more about getting premature ejaculation under control, then ballooning is a better option. Before we even get into ballooning, it should be noted that many, many people with penises suffer from premature ejaculation. The Mayo Clinic estimates that roughly 1 out of every 3 penis-owners will experience PE at some point in their lifetime. So, if you think you’re alone, you’re certainly not.

When it comes to the ballooning technique, things are different. First, find the most sensitive spot on your penis and start rubbing it a circular motion. Continue this form of circular stimulation past your erection and right up until the point where your urge to climax has arrived. Then stop; wait for your erection to go down, then begin again. What makes this different from edging is the goal isn’t an orgasm. According to Strong Health, some men use ballooning as many as 20 times a day to increase sexual desire, with some claiming that even after one round, their libido and stamina increase exponentially.

Edging for vulva-owners:

Although we’re dealing with a similar concept, the technique is going to be different too. As you would with any masturbation session, get your essentials: lube, maybe some porn, and your favorite vibrator of the moment. Because 75 to 80% of vulva-owners need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, a vibrator is practically a must for many. And, since you’re going to be practicing edging for an indeterminate amount of time, you also want a vibrator that isn’t going to result in carpal tunnel.

Remember: Toys are for everyone!

It should be noted that no matter whether you have a vulva or a penis, sex toys are your friends when it comes to edging.

If you have a penis and have yet to masturbate with a sex toy, then it’s time to introduce you to Bullet Vibes. The bullet vibe is small enough so it’s not intimidating for newbies, but still powerful enough to get the job done—especially in spots like the frenulum (the underneath part of the penis) which is very sensitive, as well as the testes, and the perineum. Even if you’ve been circumcised, your penis still has a bit of the frenulum remaining, so give it some vibrating attention.

What are some edging techniques to try on my partner?

First and foremost, you want to talk about consent. Not everyone is into edging, and even after you explain it to them, they still might not find it as their cup of tea. It’s at this point that you tell them that it’s totally cool and move on to try other things.

But should you find a partner who is into edging and would like you to perform edging on them, start as if you’re engaging in foreplay. In other words, get them as turned on as possible. If you know your partner well, you’ll know exactly how to do this. If your partner is new, then you’re going to need some communication from them about what it takes to get them fully arouse. Although some people say, “I’m going to come” right before they come, you want to ask your partner to be even more vocal about just how close they are to the edge. When they’ve reached the brink, stop. Let their body and mind ease back into a neutral place, then start stimulation again. Continue until your partner communicates that they don’t want to do it anymore and they’re ready to orgasm.

How many times can you edge before you orgasm?

As for how many times you can edge before you orgasm, this is your call. You know your body better than anyone else. The same goes for practicing edging your partner; while you can do it as much as you want, when you’re ready to come, you need to communicate that to them, so they can finally let you have that fantastic orgasm that you worked so hard to get!

As for the possibility of getting “backed up” from edging, don’t worry about it: it’s not going to happen. If you have a penis and practice edging for even a couple hours, your ejaculation that isn’t released right away isn’t going to cause a problem. If you choose not to come at all, according to Healthline, the body will just bread down the ejaculation, recycle it, and send it on its way to other parts of the body.

Edging and BDSM

If you’re engaged in the BDSM community, then there’s a good chance that you’ve already come across edging or, as it’s sometimes called in that circle, “orgasm denial.” In BDSM, the Dom decides when and how the Sub will orgasm. The Dom will use edging to taunt and tease the Sub, as the chance to climax for the Sub is all in the Dom’s hands. In these situations, edging is used as a power-play move to keep the Sub in line, while the Dom has all the control. For people who live the BDSM lifestyle, this is a delicious way to not only explore each other and their desires but fulfill fantasies, too. However, and this can’t be stressed enough, BDSM puts consent and communication above all else. And that being said, edging should be off-limits unless otherwise negotiated.

 

What is Edging? By Amanda Chatel originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

Kegel Exercises: An Expert’s Guide to Kegel Do’s and Don’ts

No need to hang tight any longer (pun intended!): Here’s everything that you need to know about Kegel exercises.

What Are Kegel Exercises?

Kegel exercises are the most widely practiced type of pelvic floor exercises that help with a myriad of symptoms (but more on that later!).

Who Invented Kegel Exercises?

In 1948, American Gynecologist Dr. Arnold Kegel designed the first program of strength activities for the pelvic floor muscles. Named after Dr. Arnold himself, Kegel exercises involve repetitions of both prolonged or rapid voluntary contractions of these muscles – also known as clench and release.

What Are the Benefits of Kegel Exercises?

Dr. Arnold’s program was created to help with urinary incontinence (UI) in women. Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles helps to improve the function of the urinary and rectal sphincter.

Kegel exercises are designed to help women with urinary incontinence

Kegels tone the entire hammock-shaped muscle infrastructure that holds your pelvic organs in place and ensures their adequate functioning. However, Kegel exercises bring many other benefits besides helping with and preventing UI.

Kegel Exercises Improve Sex

By allowing you to get acquainted with your pleasure center, Kegels intensify your orgasms and sensations. Improving the tone of your pelvic floor muscles also increases how much of the vagina gets stimulated during penetration.

Practicing Kegels have also been shown to help experience the elusive female ejaculation a.k.a. squirting.

What Causes Pelvic Floor Dysfunction?

The main factors that impact the health of the pelvic floor and lead to dysfunctions are:

– Pregnancy and childbirth
– Excessive impact sports i.e. running, jumping, etc.
– Chronic cough
– Chronic constipation
– Age
– Excessive weight
– Genetic predispositions to connective tissue weakness

Now, this isn’t to say that you shouldn’t go running! It’s just important to get acquainted with these factors so that we can take preventive actions. A little bit of running, a little bit of kegeling 😉

How to Get Started with Kegel Exercises

Before we begin, let’s keep the following 3 things in mind:

1. If you’re experiencing symptoms such as discomfort during sex or urine leakage, check with a pelvic floor physical therapist before you start squeezing! The therapist will evaluate and provide recommendations on how you should exercise your pelvic floor.

2. Be very mindful of your breath during your Kegel session. It’s easy to hold our breaths without noticing while concentrating on what’s going on down there.

3. Make sure you are contracting the right muscles. Pay special attention and check that you are not contracting your lower abdomen or your glutes.

Now, let’s get our Kegel on and practice some exercises!

Kegel Exercises for Beginners

Lay down on a yoga mat and take a few deep breaths. Make sure that your back isn’t arched and is well supported.

Place one hand on your lower belly and the other over your vulva. Doing so will help you identify if you are doing your exercises correctly.

Now, exhale all the air, and as you inhale, think as if you are stopping your pee and contract your pelvic floor muscles.

Kegel exercises for women and beginners

Count 3, 2, 1. Then release and breathe out.

Repeat this 10 times and notice if you can feel an increased sensitivity in the pelvic and vulvar area.

The Seated Kegel a.k.a Train Kegel

This type of Kegel exercise is discreet yet effective. Seated Kegels are perfect for people that have to sit at the office for long hours or during a boring commute. Nobody will know, and you are making yourself more productive 😉

First of all, sit upright with your back supported on your seat. Make sure your hips and knees are aligned and become aware of your pelvic floor.

Kegel exercises can also be performed at work or during your daily commute

Next, imagine that you want to close the vagina or stop your pee – that’s what a Kegel feels like. This exercise will cause the pelvic floor muscles to contract.

Contract slowly and count 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.

Now release and relax for 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.

Repeat this 10 times. Be mindful of your breath. If contracting for 5 seconds initially feels like a bit of a stretch, feel free to bring it down to 3 seconds, ad work your way up to 5 with time and practice. (And please, don’t count out loud as it might confuse people lol!).

Observe and feel what happens to your pelvic area during the contraction and relaxation. The most important part is to gain the proprioception of these internal muscles.

Kegel Exercises with Toys

While Kegel exercises are incredibly beneficial to work on your pelvic floor’s voluntary muscle fibers consciously, toys can help activate involuntary fibers. Involuntary fibers are those that go into action without us giving them orders to do so, such as when we cough or sneeze – thank goodness they intervene, am I right?

Do Kegel Toys Work?

There’s been a lot of conversation around the prolonged use of Kegel balls and Jade eggs. These examples include articles recommending women just to run errands or walk around with a device inside.

It’s important to keep in mind that the vagina is not meant to be carrying extra weight inside while walking around or running. Relaxation, flexibility, and lengthening are needed when we move.

Seriously. The woman that used to walk around town with her yoni in for 10 hours and then had the most intense orgasm ever is a myth. Let’s focus on what’s healthy for you!

Benefits of Using Kegel Toys

In the initial learning phases, it helps to use devices to practice kegeling.

Kegel toys  can help you gain proprioception, learning to identify the spectrum from total pelvic floor relaxation to your maximum contraction. They offer additional support when exercising your pelvic muscles, and they come in 3 different levels that vary in size, shape, and weight.

Ben wa balls allow you to choose what’s best for you depending on baseline strength level and what feels comfortable.

The secret with kegel toys is not to wear them for too long. A 15-minute session here and there can be very beneficial… and kind of hot!

With Kegel exercises, it’s all about finding the right balance for yourself, and to turn it into a fun element of your self-care routine.

Kegel Exercises: An Expert’s Guide to Kegel Do’s and Don’ts originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz