Rainbow Ombre Petite Massager By Le Wand

Vibe on a ride over the rainbow with the new Le Wand Rainbow Ombre Petite Massager! Glimmer and gleam with this limited edition of our Le Wand Petite, that’s as pretty as it is portable and powerful.

Get to Know Rainbow Ombre Petite:

  • Big power in a pretty, petite package – Amp up your orgasms with 10 vibration intensities and 6 patterns in a compact, portable wand design.
  • Make sparkles fly anywhere – With it’s compact, splashproof design and matching travel case, find your pot of gold no matter where the end of your rainbow might lead.
  • Sparkle swag – Take pride in your pleasure with our limited edition Rainbow Ombre enamel pin, and Rainbow Glimmer body accessories.
  • All you need – You’ll never want to go back to Kansas after experiencing the glimmering pleasure of our Le Wand Petite. This limited edition Rainbow Ombre wand will have glistening with pleasure and style.

In addition to the bestselling Le Wand Petite wand massager, the limited edition All That Glimmers Rainbow Ombre 7-Piece Collection comes with:

  • A Guide to Wand Use
  • A coiled Glimmer Charging Cord in a metallic pink color
  • Sparkly Travel Case
  • Rainbow Glimmer Nail Polish
  • Rainbow Glimmer Body Gel
  • A set of Metallic Temporary Tattoos

Since launching almost two years ago, the  All That Glimmers Collection has mesmerized wand enthusiasts with its dazzling, glittery tones. With the new Rainbow Ombre tone, we’re pleased to offer folks a powerful tool to empower their pleasure-seeking in yet another fun colorway to identify with.

Features:

  • Petite wand massager
  • Body-safe silicone head
  • Flexible neck
  • Easy-to-use 3-button control interface
  • 10 vibration intensities
  • 6 vibration patterns
  • Splashproof and shower-friendly
  • USB rechargeable – coiled charging cable included
  • 2 Hour charge provides up to 1 hour of playtime
  • 1 Year warranty provided by Le Wand
  • Silicone & ABS
  • 10” x 1.85”

How Intimate Toys Can Help Manage PTSD

Sometimes our self-pleasure can be disrupted by forces that feel totally beyond our control. For many, this includes Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

What is PTSD?

PTSD is a psychiatric disorder that’s known to cause severe anxiety and depression. Moreover, sufferers can also experience triggers, which lead to flashbacks in which they relive what once might’ve been a painful or traumatic experience.

PTSD and Sexual Interaction

According to Mal Harrison, a clinical sexologist and the Director for the Center for Erotic Intelligence, “Sufferers of PTSD can lose interest in activities that would otherwise bring them pleasure.”

Beyond this, PTSD can disturb the way someone experiences desire or sexual interaction. According to Dr. Liz Powell, a sex-positive psychologist, “For a lot of folks who have these symptoms, the thought of someone touching them in an intimate feels very intrusive and dangerous.” With this, it can often feel like engaging with people in a way that is intimate is going to cause you to fall apart, she says.

Can PTSD affect your (sexual) relationship?

Mal Harrison argues that those who experience PTSD can exhibit mistrust in their relationships, which prevents deeper intimacy and connection in their sex lives. “It often takes a PTSD sufferer longer to feel safe and trusting with their partners.”

Harrison explains, “Furthermore, if we’re living in a constant state of high anxiety and stress, or losing sleep from insomnia, chances are, we won’t have the energy, mental focus, or positive attitude of self-love needed for good sex.”

The Side Effects of PTSD on Sex

In Mal Harrison’s practice, she has worked with people who experience mental disorders like PTSD, which can cause them to have a negative internal dialogue that often leads to sexual issues such as erectile dysfunction, painful sex, or the inability to orgasm.

“It can be extremely difficult to engage with sufferers of PTSD, due to the fact that sex requires some form of surrender, which is the scariest thing in the world for someone with PTSD.” It’s no wonder our mental health and personal pleasure are connected; in order to feel fully present in our bodies and sexual experiences, it’s helpful to have a clear head.

Using Sex Toys to Manage PTSD

If someone is still feeling uncomfortable being intimate with others, sex toys can allow them to explore their own bodies and develop deeper intimacy within themselves, which can ultimately help them feel more comfortable engaging in partner sex.

“It could be a way for you to help get yourself out of your head when you’re having sex with other people,” says Dr. Liz Powell. In this way, sex toys can take us out of our reality, and decrease feelings of depression or anxiety, while allowing us to enter a state of physical pleasure and connection to the self.

Moreover, the mind-body connection is a huge benefit for people with PTSD as “it gives them a sense of agency and control over their bodies, opposite of the experience that left them feeling out of control,” according to Powell.

In these ways, sex toys can often help people who have experienced trauma, whether it’s sexual or not, find ways to reconnect with themselves and their bodies and ultimately find pleasure. “Toys can allow them to start chipping away at the wall between themselves and what it is that they’re feeling,” offers Powell.

As each person prefers different kinds of sensations, Powell recommends trying out several different toys and kinds of stimulation to see what feels good in your body. “This is one of those opportunities for deeper exploration and a way of getting back in touch with yourself and figuring out what feels good,” she says.

Beyond this, Powell argues that not many therapists are not great at speaking with their clients about sex, and this can make it challenging for people to feel comfortable addressing the ways their mental health impacts their sex lives.

In this case, she still recommends bringing it up to your therapist and if they can’t give you what you need, there are a ton of resources out there to help you find sex-positive therapists. This includes the National Coalition of Sexual Freedom, the American Association of Sexuality Educators, and the Open List.

How Sex Toys Can Help Manage PTSD by Sara Radin originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

Best Toys for Folks Who Identify as Asexuals

If you’re not familiar, asexuality is just another point on the spectrum of sexual attraction. Some people are homosexual (and are attracted to people of the same gender), others are bisexual (and are attracted to people of two or more genders), and yet others can be asexual.

What does asexual mean?

Asexual folks don’t experience sexual attraction. That doesn’t mean that they don’t experience arousal or desire, just that any arousal or desire isn’t directed towards a specific person. It also doesn’t mean that asexual people can’t have fulfilling romantic relationships, since successful relationships don’t always require sex! All asexuality means is that a person doesn’t experience sexual attraction.

While there are lots of folks who are asexual and who want nothing to do with sex- and that’s totally fine- there are others, who love toys and embrace them fully, no matter the style. Our list of the toys below are for those in that gray area; not quite sex-repulsed, but not quite fully invested in hyper-realistic sex toys.

Asexual folks’ choice #1: Vibrators

Clitoris owners typically appreciate some vibrations, regardless of subsequent or simultaneous activities. Try to find a small, lipstick-sized vibrator if you’re looking for pinpoint stimulation or move up to more power-focused vibrator that provides suction or dual-motor, surround sound style vibration.

Many folks like broader stimulation, so wand-style vibrators are great for this.

Experiment with different kinds if you can, and see what you like! Regardless of the style, be sure to read some reviews and look for vibrators that are rumbly, not buzzy.

Asexual folks’ choice #2: Dildos

Silicone is a great material that lends itself well to dildo-making. Many companies have very realistic options, but also some more abstract, non-realistic designs as well. Sometimes they’re simply cylindrical, others will have curves and waves or other textures.

Make sure your toy has a flared base if you’re using it for anal play, or that it’s compatible with a harness if you’re thinking about incorporating strap-ons into your repertoire.

There are also vibrating dildos, which can be a great way to shake up any monotony. Many vibrators meant for internal use have prominent curves meant for G-spot stimulation, though if you find you don’t like that particular sensation, these vibes can also be great multitaskers and work well for clitoral stimulation as well!

Be sure to look for body-safe materials like silicone and waterproofing if you plan to experiment in the shower or bath.

Asexual folks’ choice #3: Plugs

If you have a prostate, the prostate-specific plugs might be a fun option to explore that pleasure zone. With or without a prostate, plugs marketed to novices are a great option for some introductory anal play.

Remember to go slow, use lots of lube, and think of it as a marathon instead of a sprint. If it’s your first time experimenting with anal play, don’t feel like you have to get the whole toy in at once, or leave it in for a long time. Any amount of progress is a success, and always remember to use toys with a flared base for safety!

Even if you’re not asexual, some folks just don’t like realistic toys. There are always some great options out there for more abstract toys in satisfying, body-safe shapes and materials.

Best Toys for Folks Who Identify as Asexuals originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

OG Wand, New Colors! Magenta & Pacific Blue Rechargeable Vibrating Massagers by Le Wand

Winner of Cosmopolitan’s Sexcellence Award for “Most Powerful Sex Toy”, Le Wand Rechargeable Vibrating Massager is guaranteed to deliver intense and sensual pleasure. The luxurious massager has ten distinctive, rumbly vibration speeds and twenty vibration patterns.

Le Wand’s sleek design provides focused vibration in the head of the wand. Powerful, penetrating pleasure is granted in the convenience and versatility of a rechargeable wand.

Le Wand Rechargeable Vibrating Massager is a complete set that features a body-safe silicone head, flexible neck, convenient travel case, and beautifully giftable packaging.

Features:

  • Full sized massage wand
  • Luxurious and powerful
  • 10 speeds
  • 20 Patterns
  • Doubles as a full body massager
  • Silicone head sits on a flexible neck
  • Intuitive controls
  • Travel case included
  • Rechargeable – charging cable included
  • 3 Hour charge provided up to 3 hours of playtime
  • 1 Year warranty provided by Le Wand
  • Body-Safe Silicone & ABS
  • 13.39” x 2.44”

The Complete Guide to Dry Humping

Dry humping. Those two words probably conjure up memories of your high school day, back when grinding up against your partner, while fully clothed, was something to get all hot and bothered over. But, breaking news, dry humping isn’t just for horny teenagers in the backseat of a car parked behind the local supermarket. Dry humping is for all of us — no matter our age or sexual experience. And, in case you haven’t done it lately, you’re truly missing out.

What is Dry Humping?

Although the phrase is a bit misleading, because if you do it right there’s nothing “dry” about it, dry humping is the sexual act of rubbing your genitals against your partner’s genitals or other parts of the body.

Also known as outercourse or frottage (fancy sounding, isn’t it?), dry humping can be performed with your clothes on or off. Or, with one partner clothed and the other naked. Heck, you can even do it solo! The ultimate goal of dry humping is to get off without penetration — hence the reason why the word “dry” kind of throws the whole concept for a loop. If you rub your clit or penis just the right way, then things are anything but dry.

Benefits of Dry Humping

What’s great about dry humping is that it’s not just fun, but there are benefits to it too.

  1. Dry humping feels good.

When our genitals are stimulated, blood rushes towards them to engorge them, which leads to arousal. The more aroused you are, the more you’re likely to bump and grind against each other. Even if neither of you climax, just the stimulation of all that rubbing alone can feel really fantastic.

  1. You don’t have to worry about STIs.

Well, this has a bit of a caveat. If you’re dry humping with clothes on, which can be quite satisfying for both partners and orgasms can be reached, you don’t have to concern yourself with the possibility of getting STIs, or pregnant for that matter.

  1. You can learn about your body.

Whether it’s your first time drying humping or you’re a seasoned pro, there’s always room to learn more about your body. For example, although the exterior part of the clitoris is basically just a sneak peek at the whole enchilada, so to speak, people with clits have reported that one side of their clitoris is more sensitive than the other side. In other words, your clit can be a lefty or righty.

With some proper, intense dry humping, you might just catch the right part of your partner’s pants that hits that sweet spot and takes you to a new level of pleasure. The same thing goes with penis owners. Sensitive areas vary from penis to penis, and dry humping just might lead you to a new spot you didn’t even realize could achieve such pleasure.

  1. You can do it solo.

Any sexual act that you can do solo and score an orgasm out of is something worth noting. Frankly, anything is hump-able if you really try.

  1. It makes for great foreplay.

In a world where it takes vulva owners at least, emphasis on at least 20 minutes to become fully aroused, dry humping is perfect for extended foreplay. The more aroused each partner is, the better the following sex acts will be. And, no, those sex acts don’t strictly have to be intercourse. A hot dry humping session before oral sex is the type of thing that will blow both partners’ minds.

Risks of Dry Humping

As is the case with all good things, there are always risk factors. That’s just how the Universe works: You can’t have the good without some potentially “bad” stuff weaved in there. But, at the end of the day, it’s a fair trade when you think about it.

  1. Friction injuries.

Whether you choose to dry hump with your clothes on or even in just your undies, you run the risk of irritating the genital tissue. While you may not feel it at the time, as you’re totally engaged in your hot and heavy hump fest, afterward or even the next day you may feel some aching and even have some minimal friction burns — especially if you’re a penis owner whose penis is circumcised. The foreskin provides protection in many cases, and this happens to be one of them.

  1. STIs can be a concern.

While there’s no way an STI is breaking through two pairs of denim-clad partners, if you do strip down to your skivvies or decide to practice outercourse sans those skivvies (meaning naked), STIs then become something to worry about.

You don’t need to have penetrative sex to contract an STI from an infected partner or vice versa. STIs like herpes, HPV, trichomoniasis, syphilis (if there’s an exposed sore), and crabs don’t necessarily need to involve the exchange of bodily fluid to be transmitted; skin-to-skin contact is enough. So, before you strip down to naked dry humping, you may want to know each other’s STI statuses.

How to Dry Hump Solo

Since one of the major benefits of dry humping is that you don’t need a partner, not covering ways in which you can get the most out of your solo dry humping experience would be a serious disservice to you, dear reader!

Although we’re only going to cover a handful of dry humping techniques, it’s important to keep in mind that, as mentioned above, if it’s hump-able, then it works. Of course, since this is a sexual act, you want to keep your humping at home.

  1. Hands!

Your hands are magical, wonderful things that, if you’ve masturbated enough, they know exactly how to please your genitals. While in the past you may have stuck to the conventional methods of masturbating with your hands, like stimulating the clit or penis, you can actually use your hands when dry humping solo.

With your hand flat and palm up, you can grind your genitals against the surface of your palm. You can do this by laying on your back, on your stomach, or even standing. What’s so satisfying is that your palm covers a wider range of your genitals and the deeper you move your hips into your hand., the more intense the experience.

  1. Furniture and other household items.

Take a look around your home. Is there anything that couldn’t be used to get off? From pillows to chairs and couch arms, to the rounded end of a staircase banister, the washing machine while it’s on spin cycle, and so on down the line, when it comes to using furniture and other household items to dry hump, you practically have an endless supply of goods. Nothing beats straddling the arm of a chair and bringing yourself to orgasm.

  1. Lay-on sex toys.

If you want some buzz with your dry humping, then you definitely want to add some toys to the mix — lay-on sex toys, specifically are perfect for this and can be used in so many different dry humping techniques.

You can put the vibe on your mattress and grind up against it that way, or turn over onto your back, with the toy cupped in your hand and swivel your hips up and down as you hump it from this position too. Want to take another ride on the arm of that chair? Add the mini-vibe to the equation and you might just see fireworks when you climax.

Things to Consider When Dry Humping with a Partner

There are things to keep in mind when dry humping with a partner, especially if you want to avoid any sort of irritation to the genitals.

  1. Clothes.

While there’s no denying that the denim, in being a fairly sturdy fabric, is great for dry humping, there’s always a zipper or buttons with which to contend. Rub your penis or vulva the wrong way against any zipper, and it’s not likely to feel very good — it can also be a bit of damage to the exterior genital tissues. Sweatpants, which didn’t become sexy until we were all trapped inside during the first round of COVID, and similar soft fabrics are ideal for dry humping without worrying about tearing the genital skin.

  1. Underwear.

Underwear, too, is also a good option, as the fabric is soft and there’s still a bit of a barrier there if you’re trying to play it safe. Of course, if you have kinky underwear with any sort of metal or spikes on it, you probably want to save those for another sexual encounter. But also take into consideration the sensitivity of your partner’s genitals, as well as yours. Because sensitivity varies from person to person, what clothes might be an ideal complement for one’s dry humping sesh, doesn’t mean it’s the same for another person. But I think we can all agree that the spiked undies should be put on hold when it comes to dry humping!

Best Dry Humping Positions

Although statistically, doggy style is the most preferred position for intercourse, when it comes to dry humping, we’re in a whole other sphere.

  1. Straddling.

Straddling your partner while dry humping can really hit the spot, especially if you’re the one on top. Vulva owners, in particular, can use the pubic bone of their partner to grind their way to bliss. Penis owners, too, when straddling their partner can also thoroughly enjoy this position too, but it might involve a little bit of trial and error, especially if both partners have penises. In this case, straddling your partner’s thigh, stomach, or chest can send you over the top into Never Never Land.

  1. Standing.

Oh, hell yes! Although you definitely want a wall or something behind you to support you and your partner so you don’t go for a tumble, standing and dry humping were made for each other. As it gets more and more intense, you can pull in each other’s hips, so you’re as close as possible, and even lift the leg of the partner not against the wall, cradling it in your arm, giving you both more genital surface to dry hump. This is an exceptionally good technique for those who prefer more of an all-over stimulation of their genitals instead of just the penis head or clitoris.

  1. Missionary.

When it comes to dry humping, missionary is your best friend. As both partners push their hips into each other, stimulating their genitals, it’s an amazing position to be in — and great foreplay if you’re planning to follow up with some hot missionary intercourse.

FAQs and Myths on Dry Humping

Q: Is it true that only young people and virgins dry hump?

No way. While it may be an introduction to sex acts and sexual movement, it’s not just for young people or those who haven’t had any intercourse yet. People dry hump throughout their life. In fact, there’s probably an 80-year-old couple doing it right now.

Q: Can you get pregnant from dry humping?

It’s impossible to say, “No, absolutely not,” because stranger things have happened. But, even if you’re dry humping without your clothes on, the chances are very slim. Like, really, really slim. Like you probably have a better chance of winning the lottery type of slim, when it comes to possibly getting pregnant.

If your partner ejaculates during dry humping and, let’s say, a bit of it gets on your vulva or even in the outer part of the vaginal canal, semen that carries the sperm to fertilize an egg, needs a lot more of a push, so to speak, to get all the way up inside and reach an egg. It’s not as though sperm have legs and just waltz inside your vagina.

Q: Is dry humping only for vulva-owners?

Absolutely not. It doesn’t matter if you have a vulva or a penis, when you dry hump the genital regions are being stimulated. At the end of the day, a stimulated genital is a stimulated genital, and stimulated genitals are happy, aroused, and loving that dry humping action.

Q: Is it unnatural to prefer dry humping over penetrative sex?

When it comes to sex — all sexual acts — as long as it involves consenting adults, nothing is unnatural, weird, or whatever other negative adjective you want to throw into the mix. Pleasure is not experienced in only one way. What arouses one person, may have zero effect on another person.

When we start deeming certain consensual acts as unnatural, we’re feeding into a society that still holds archaic beliefs as to what sex “should” be and that’s unfair to all of us. Sexuality and sexual pleasure reside on a very long spectrum and no matter where you fall on that spectrum and what you need to get off is your business. If you’d rather dry hump instead of having penetrative sex, then that’s great! It means you know what you want, what you prefer, and what you find sexually pleasurable — and nothing about that is even remotely unnatural.

Dry Humping by Amanda Chatel originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

Chrome Collection Internal Vibes by Le Wand

Ride A Wave Of Sensual Internal Vibes.

Pinpoint your pleasure with Le Wand’s new line of internal vibes. Designed to provide positively perfect penetrative stimulation, each Le Wand Chrome Internal Vibe offers a new level of internal sensations.

GEE is a G-spot targeting vibrator with broad flattened head that sits on a flexible neck.

XO is a petite double motor dual stimulator for amplified, simultaneous stimulation internally and externally.

BLEND is a double motor rabbit with a flexible neck to ensure the blended orgasm of a lifetime.

Each model is available in the vibrant Chrome Collection color options we already know and love – Black, Rose Gold, and Dark Cherry.

Curved, cupped, and posable to hit all your most sensual zones, Le Wand’s Internal Vibes collection elevates your pleasure sessions to climactic, sensational experiences.

GEE

G-Spot Targeting Rechargeable Vibrator

Pinpoint your pleasure anywhere with the Le Wand Gee, featuring a flexible neck design for fully controllable stimulation.

The powerful, portable and adaptable size is perfect for a full range of situations.

Use the flexible, curved neck of the Gee to pinpoint your most sensitive, internal spots for sensational and powerful vibrations anywhere.

Perfect for solo sessions or as an addition to partner play!

The USB rechargeable GEE is splashproof for easy care and cleanup.

Features:

  • Luxurious G-spot vibrator
  • Flexible neck
  • Broad head
  • Intuitive controls
  • Rumbly vibrations
  • Storage pouch included
  • Gift-worthy packaging
  • Splashproof
  • USB rechargeable – charging cable included
  • 1 Year warranty provided by Le Wand

In the Box:

  • Le Wand GEE G-spot targeting rechargeable vibrator
  • Guide to Chrome Collection
  • User guide
  • USB charging cable
  • Micro-suede travel pouch

 

XO

Double Motor Wave Rechargeable Vibrator

Ride a wave of sensational, internal vibes with Le Wand Xo, featuring a dual motor design for amplified, simultaneous stimulation internally and externally.

The powerful, portable and adaptable size is perfect for a full range of situations.

Use the dual motors to ride waves of euphoria and achieve full body stimulation for relief anywhere.

Perfectly penetrating for solo use and providing versatile vibes for partner play.

The USB rechargeable XO is splashproof for easy care and cleanup.

Features:

  • Luxurious petite dual stimulator
  • Flexible neck
  • Intuitive controls
  • Rumbly vibrations
  • Gift-worthy packaging
  • Storage pouch included
  • Splashproof
  • USB rechargeable – charging cable included
  • 1 Year warranty provided by Le Wand

In the Box:

  • Le Wand XO double motor wave rechargeable vibrator
  • Guide to Chrome Collection
  • User guide
  • USB charging cable
  • Micro-suede travel pouch

 

BLEND

Double Motor Rabbit Rechargeable Vibrator

Submerge in multiple sensations with Le Wand Blend.

Featuring a double motor design for amplified sensation of the clitoris and G-spot, the powerful, portable, and adaptable size is perfect for a full range of situations.

Use the double vibrating rabbit design for a blended orgasm of a lifetime, providing multiple simultaneous sensations internally and externally.

The bendable neck is designed to reach all of your desired spots in solo play and adds that extra kick to your partnered activities.

The USB rechargeable BLEND is splashproof for easy care and cleanup.

Features:

  • Luxurious dual stimulator
  • Flexible neck
  • Intuitive controls
  • Rumbly vibrations
  • Gift-worthy packaging
  • Storage pouch included
  • Splashproof
  • USB rechargeable – charging cable included
  • 1 Year warranty provided by Le Wand

In the Box:

  • Le wand BLEND double motor rabbit rechargeable vibrator
  • Guide to Chrome Collection
  • User guide
  • USB charging cable
  • Micro-suede travel pouch

7 Creative Ways to Orgasm from Clit Stimulation

Struggling to arouse your most personal pleasure spot? Sexual wellness writer Amanda Chatel shares some tried & tested ways to get lit with clit stimulation!

Oh, the beautiful, magnificent clitoris. Although once an anomaly, and even now somewhat misunderstood by those who either don’t have one or have yet to educate themselves on it, the clitoris, AKA the clit, is the center of pleasure for the majority of those who have a vulva.

Study after study of vulva owners has found that without clit stimulation, almost 80% of them can’t orgasm from penetrative sex alone. Granted, this percentage fluctuates a bit based on the study’s pool of participants, but the lesson here is that climax and clit stimulation go hand-in-hand for many.

What is the Clitoris?

The clitoris is, both literally and metaphorically, more than meets the eye. While there is the glan clitoris, the part of the clit that’s outside the body, there is a whole other part—an even larger part—inside.

Comprised of two corpora cavernosa, forming two crura (basically legs) that extend inward, the internal part of the clit resembles a wishbone and can be anywhere from 3.5 to 5 inches long, with a width of 2.5 inches. That’s a lot of behind-the-scenes that make the clit such a powerful erogenous zone. The external part alone is packed with roughly 8,000 nerve endings, with as many as 15,000 nerves throughout the pelvic area.

Clit Stimulation for Beginners

Because there is no one way to stimulate the clit, if you’re new to it (whether it be your own or someone else’s), it’s a good idea to take things step-by-step.

Locate the clit.

Not everyone knows where the clit is and that’s OK! This can especially be the case for those who don’t have one. If it’s your own that you’re trying to locate, a mirror can help. If it’s someone else’s, have them lay on their back and spread their legs so that you can get a good look at the layout of the land. Although clits vary in size and some are more noticeable than others, due to their clitoral hood, it resides at the top of the vulva. If you touch it with your finger, it will feel like a soft nub and with all those nerves, you’ll know you’ve hit the money spot.

Explore it.

For some people with a clitoris, one-quarter or half of the external part might be more sensitive than the other parts. There’s also the chance that some clits are too sensitive for too much pressure, while others need a lot of pressure and aggressive stimulation to get off. Some like tapping, while others prefer circular motions. It’s all about exploring what feels good and what can feel better.

Introduce some clitoral toys.

We’re lucky enough to live in a day and age where the range of clitoral toys is vast and the quality is exceptional. If you find you prefer a vibration type of sensation, then toys like Le Wand Deux, named for its twin-motor, can either directly stimulate the clit or be used to stimulate the surrounding area—a great option for those with sensitive clits that don’t need direct contact to orgasm

Use lube.

Although lube is often thought of as something that makes penetrative sex, both vaginally and anally better, it also makes clit stimulation superior too. While vaginas lubricate when a vulva owner is aroused, clits do not. That’s why having some lube on hand or a clitoral stimulation serum, either while masturbating with your fingers or a toy, is always a good idea. Yes, friction can feel good for some, but for others, it’s the silky smooth ride provided by lube that hits the spot.

7 Creative Ways to Orgasm from Clit Stimulation

While there are more than a few ways to stimulate the clit — showerhead, anyone? — here are seven approaches to get you started.

  1. Take a bike ride.

When women first started riding bicycles during the Victorian Era there was actual concern that the seat, combined with the bouncing along on the road, would cause women to be climaxing all over town. So, take that bike on a gravel road and see how you feel afterward.

  1. Use your pillow or mattress.

Have you humped your bed lately? No. Then maybe it’s time to get on that. Both your bed and pillow can stimulate the clit while you writhe in pleasure in your sheets.

  1. Internal stimulation.

Since we know the clitoris is also internal, stimulating along the wall against your pubic bone and lower stomach (the G-spot area) is another way to achieve pleasure. This internal part of the clit can be reached by a finger or by a toy.

  1. Look for something around the house.

Listen, with enough creativity, any household item can be used for clit stimulation. Although the showerhead may be the most obvious, take a look at your electric toothbrush—any thoughts? A 2018 survey found that 70% of people with vulvas had used a household item to get off.

  1. Hump your partner.

From the “sideways saddle” in which you sit on your partner, face away from them and use their bended knee to stimulate your clit, or straddle any part of their body and turn your partner into a playground of orgasm opportunities.

  1. Do Kegel exercises.

Kegel exercises might not seem an obvious choice for clit stimulation, but it actually is. Clenching and releasing, while strengthening the pelvic floor, is basically like stroking the internal part of the clit.

  1. Edging.

When you practice edging, either on yourself or with a partner, you bring yourself as close to an orgasm as you can, then stop; as in a full STOP. After a couple of minutes, you do it again to another full stop. You can do this as many times as you want, with the guarantee that when you finally do let yourself or your partner come, the orgasm will be stronger and maybe even longer.

Frequently Asked Questions About Clit Stimulation

Q: Help! I don’t think clit stimulation is working for me. What should I do?

First of all, don’t worry! Sexuality is complicated and what works for some isn’t necessarily going to work for someone else. There can be many reasons why clitoral stimulation might not work for someone: street, medication, sleeping issues, and more.

If you’re not in the moment when it comes to clit stimulation, it can be trying to achieve an orgasm. Stress, anxiety, and other external factors can weigh heavily on one’s mind and make climaxing via clit stimulation but a dream. Medications, too, especially selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), can also stand in the way of an orgasm.

If you’ve tried to stimulate your clit, both internally and externally, but it’s just not working for you, don’t fret. It may just be a matter of changing your medication, learning how to be more mindful so you can be in the moment, or exploring other erogenous zones that just might be a better match for what you need to feel pleasure.

Q: Is it possible to over-stimulate the clit?

Short answer: Yes. Long answer: Let’s unpack this.

During clit stimulation, the entire vulva becomes aroused and engorged with blood. All those thousands of nerve endings are tantalized and working their magic to make sure you have a pleasurable orgasm. Once you do, the clitoris can become sensitive. You might find that touching it directly after climax is too much to bear; this is even more the case if you have an especially sensitive clit. In these instances, it’s just a matter of stepping back and giving your clit the chance to take a breather, relax, and basically gain its composure—and it will.

What’s also important to realize in these moments, contrary to myths, is that you can’t numb your clitoris with excessive stimulation or by using a vibrator. Nor do you only have a finite number of orgasms, so you better use them sparingly—that’s all bupkis. If you experience an over-stimulated clit, rest assured that it will pass. Then you can get back to clit stimulation again!

7 Creative Ways to Orgasm from Clit Stimulation by Amanda Chatel originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz

Feel My Power 2022 Special Edition by Le Wand

Unleash your power with pleasure that embraces all bodies: “My body. My choice. My power. My voice.”

Introducing the most anticipated sex toy of the year, the Le Wand Feel My Power 2022 Special Edition Rechargeable Vibrating Massager.

To advocate sexual pleasure as sexual health, Le Wand created their 2022 Feel My Power wand to champion how we use our sex toys, the intimacy and satisfaction of our relationships, consent, solo sex, and so much more. After all, sexual pleasure is our birthright, and if you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun! We encourage folks to challenge misinformation and stigma and to feel good about their bodies and sexual experiences.

Since 2019, Le Wand has celebrated every International Women’s Day by collaborating with empowering artists to launch a special edition version of their OG Le Wand. This year, they’ve teamed up with @bykellymalka.

An illustrator and designer from Los Angeles that showcases her artwork to raise awareness and make an emotional and tangible impact on mental health, gender equality, and socio-political issues. Urging consumers to “take your pleasure seriously,” Malka’s art for the Feel My Power Special Edition celebrates diversity, self-love and sexual pleasure as a birth right. and she focuses mainly on mental health, gender equality and socio-political issues.

The 8-piece 2022 Feel My Power Special Edition set includes all the swag you need to feel YOUR power in and out of the bedroom:

 

  • Limited-edition Le Wand Rechargeable Massager
  • Travel bag
  • 3-Piece post card set
  • Sticker set
  • Embroidery set
  • Woven patch
  • Keychain
  • Pleasure Guide booklet

The USB rechargeable 2022 Feel My Power wand has ten distinctive rumbly vibration speeds and twenty vibration patterns. Its body-safe silicone head sits on a flexible neck to provide targeted stimulation, and a lengthy handle with an easy-to-use 3 button control that allows for smooth maneuvering.

Features:

  • Ultra-powerful full sized wand massager
  • 10 Vibration intensities
  • 20 Vibration patterns
  • Travel-friendly lock function
  • Travel-friendly lock function
  • Soft silicone head
  • Flexible neck
  • 3-Button control interface
  • Storage/ travel bag
  • 5 swag items: Post card set, sticker set, embroidery set, woven patch, keychain
  • Pleasure Guide booklet
  • Wipe clean with damp cloth
  • USB rechargeable – charger included
  • 1 Year warranty provided by Le Wand
  • Silicone and ABS
  • 13.39” x 2.45”
  • Please note, this massager is neither waterproof nor splashproof. Do not use it in the shower or a bath.

Masturbation Mythbusting: All Things Anal

Something I love about butts (and there are many things) is that we all have one. It’s a universal pleasure zone, something we can all enjoy, no matter your gender or anatomy.

It’s an inclusive concept that we all seemed to understand centuries ago in 2300 B.C.E. to 100 C.E., when the Babylonians and Grecians (and soon after, the Romans) lived their best lives and fucked anyone they wanted. But that would come to an end in the early 1200s, when religion introduced shame to the bedroom and to our assholes.

As churches became a more powerful entity in society, this shame was amplified to the point that anal sex (“sodomy”) was against the law. If you can believe it, the law considers anal sex a “perverted sexual act” and is still illegal in 12 states across America. The ACLU confidently asserts that these laws are inextricably linked to homophobia. And they have receipts.

Considering the above, it’s safe to say that anal stimulation is still shrouded in a thick fog of stigma. And as a result, there is an abundance of misinformation out there. So let’s clear some of that up right now.

MYTH #1: You need to douche.

One of the biggest misconceptions about anal play is that you’re entering the area where poop is stored, which more or less guarantees a messy experience. This isn’t true. The rectum, which is anywhere from six to nine inches long, is merely a point of passage for your poop, but is where the majority of toys and penises come in contact with.

Where stool is actually stored is a place called the sigmoid colon, which lives just above the rectum, on a right degree angle. This area is closed off by part of our anatomy known as the rectosigmoid junction, otherwise known as the “second hole” among anal enthusiasts. Think of it like a valve that naturally opens when it’s time to go number two.

The only way someone could reach the sigmoid colon is with an exceptionally large toy, penis, or fist. People who engage in more extreme anal play will often douche, because they will be stimulating this area. (On that note: Shower douches, while popular, are a big no-no, as they don’t often regulate water pressure.)

All of this is to say that as long as you keep the rectum free of feces, you shouldn’t experience any mess. You can help accomplish this by eating a diet rich in fibre (FYI: fiber supplements are a God-send if you engage regularly) and avoid trigger-foods like: coffee, red meat, alcohol and spicy things 24 to 48 hours before the action. That means no Chipotle for you, bb!

Besides diet, if you use the bathroom an hour before intercourse and rinse off in the shower afterward, you should be good to go.

If you want to double-check, lube your finger, put it up your ass and feel around for any pesky lingerers. Just make sure your nails are trimmed because, like a Cancer listening to Evermore, the skin in that area is mighty sensitive.

But of course, nothing is foolproof and shit happens from time to time. So if and when it happens to you, don’t make a big deal of it. Make a decision to clean up and continue, or reschedule. It’s no biggie!

MYTH #2: You use it, you loose it.

People seem to think that because our assholes don’t have the same elasticity or lubricity of a vagina that if we engage in regular anal intercourse, we will be left with a wrinkled, cavernous hole. This isn’t true!

The reality is that our anal sphincter is four times stronger than what’s required for its intended purpose (to hold in poop), which means we can afford to lose some elasticity in the area.

In fact, the slight reduction in anal resting tone (which gauges the tightness of the muscle when it isn’t being used) that can occur from anal sex makes the act easier and more comfortable in the future. Even then, the muscle is still much tighter than what is required to function.

Most people who experience loss of function tend to enjoy exceptionally large toys or engage in more extreme acts like fisting, which, if done unsafely, can cause the muscle to loosen beyond repair. More often than not, these people know these potential repercussions.

As long as you use plenty of lube, take your time, and stop and reassess when things get painful, you’re doing everything you can to prevent damaging your precious hole.

MYTH #3: Anal play is gay.

Imagine thinking that playing with a part of your anatomy––one that houses a powerhouse of pleasure, no less––has any impact on your masculinity and who you find sexually attractive?

Unfortunately, due to relentless societal conditioning, homophobia and religion, that’s the way many heterosexual men regard anal sex. But thankfully, that’s beginning to change.

Research from the Center for Disease Control and Prevention found people’s opinions about anal sex really started to change around the mid-2000s. Back in ‘92, only 20 percent of women and 26 percent of men ages 18–59 had tried anal sex. In 2008, sixteen years later, 39 percent of women and 44 percent of men ages 15–44 had given it a try.

More recently, a nation-wide survey by Future Method found that 72 percent of Americans have engaged in anal sex, and that straight-identifying folks engage nearly twice a month.

What’s more, the survey revealed that 10 percent of straight Americans have tried pegging, suggesting that female-identifying partners may be taking the dominant role when engaging in anal sex with their male-identifying partners. Now that’s progress!

So while these archaic anal perspectives are still present today, they’re becoming less and less prevalent as people continue opening their minds and holes to the pleasures of anal stimulation. It’s a classic tale of: don’t knock it ‘till you try it!

MYTH #4: Anal only feels good for prostate-owners.

Because people with penises have a prostate and people born with vulvas don’t, it’s assumed that only the former can derive pleasure from anal play. Well guess what? That’s not true either.

In fact, there are a ton of pleasurable nerve-endings in the area and both the G-spot and A-spot (which, for those who may not know, is roughly two inches higher than the G-spot) can be accessed from the rectum via the shared wall between the vagina and the rectum.

The clitoris can be stimulated from anal sex as well. While many perceive the clitoris as a tiny nub nestled on top of the labia, there is a lot we don’t see. (As wild as it sounds, we didn’t fully understand the anatomy of the clitoris until 2005, and who’s to say there isn’t more we’re going to learn?). The clitoris is actually shaped like a wishbone, with “legs” extending all the way down to the anus. This is the part of the clitoris that can be stimulated through anal play.

ONE LAST THING: Believe in your butt.

It’s worth noting (yet again) that these myths only exist because of undue stigma. Once you take it upon yourself to start learning about and exploring the pleasures of the anus, the less intimidated you’ll be.

Generally speaking, you should approach anal sex as you would any type of sex: with an open mind, the proper tools, a willingness to explore, and, if you’re not going at it solo, a partner you can trust.

Masturbation Mythbusting: All Things Anal by Bobby Box originally appeared on Rumble & Buzz