What Does It Mean to Be ‘Sex-Positive’?

It is never ever too late to learn more about sex! We as educators in the adult industry should advocate for this in our daily lives. Whether that is by speaking to customers in-store, sharing on social media or talking to our children, family and friends. The more we talk about sexual health and wellness, the less taboo it becomes. I choose to not hide where I work or what I do for a living, I take a more open approach and try to cultivate why our careers are valid and needed. I am incredibly open about being sex-positive in my personal life and on my social media accounts; the way I see it is if I educate one person or help one person find pleasure it is all worth it to me.

Most people are in fact having sex or want to, but yet some people have never considered a sex toy or solo sex. Consider why this is, and when you got your first sex toy. When was the first time you masturbated or even heard the word “orgasm?” Did your parents openly talk to you about pleasure, masturbation or your anatomy? In addition to the sex talk at home (or lack thereof), think back to health class in school. This is a big part as to why this industry is so important. I would argue that every community needs a local adult store — if I could have it my way, then that would be the case.

Sex education in schools needs to be revamped. In addition to doing away with abstinence-based sex-ed, which is severely outdated and potentially harmful, sex education should also include LGBTQ individuals and relationships.

Sex education should be pleasure-focused and we should teach proper anatomy and terms. I personally learned more from Ducky DooLittle’s anatomy pictures than I ever did in school. I would also go a step further and say that we should teach our children about gender identity and sexual orientation. Sex education often assumes students are all heterosexual and identify as a man or woman, which is simply not the case.

If none of this can be taught in school or by your parents or guardians, where are we to learn it from? This is another reason why adult stores are so important and why our careers matter!

So, what does it mean to be sex-positive? I think most would agree that that it entails accepting all consensual expressions of sexuality, nudity and kink as healthy. It encourages sexual pleasure, informed consent and advocates sex education. Sex is not shameful, taboo or unhealthy in any way. I believe at Excitement and in this industry, we have taken long strides to change with the times and be more inclusive.

This is where we as educators play a vital role in getting the proper information out in our communities. Being in the adult industry for almost 12 years, I have noticed more people coming into our stores for the first time, and reaching out to me online with questions. If you remember back to the ‘80s or ‘90s, you may recall adult stores being dirty or dark, and going into rental stores that hid adult movies and mags behind curtains. Most toys back then took batteries and were made of jelly-like material. We have come a long way and will continue to evolve as we move forward. The customers coming in for toys are asking questions and we can provide not only the answers they are looking for, but also a safe space to feel welcomed and accepted. They are not just purchasing any random toy and leaving. They are interested in the material, how it will function and feel for their bodies. We are the sex educators that they never had in school; we can change people’s lives. That — and understanding my own sexuality and journey — is why I do what I do.

An estimated 5.6 percent of Americans identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer according to a recent poll by Gallup, and we need to be able to service all these consumers. So how is this affecting our industry and products? I, for one, am seeing a huge trend in shoppers seeking out more toys that are gender non-specific and that are versatile in their functions. To begin, you need to have products in your stores that represent this — meaning we should refrain from gendering toys. Also, we should not assume someone’s gender, their sexual orientation or their relationship status. We should use gender-neutral packaging, signs and wording to match so that we are being inclusive to everyone. Be sure to use proper terminology to not exclude anyone, because in reality, a specific product can be universal to more than one gender. For example, in the industry and in our stores, we have begun saying “vagina owner” or “penis owner” instead of female or male. One of my biggest pet peeves as a lesbian is that I do not want to purchase a product that has a picture of a male-and-female couple on the box, it just does not line up with who I am or what I am looking for. We need to be able to demonstrate to others that we are in fact inclusive. I love seeing companies in the industry using same-sex partners, all body types and all skin tones more than ever before.

Many manufacturers have done an amazing job at being inclusive and many more are redoing their packaging and taking this into consideration for new product and marketing releases. The CalExotics Boundless line is one example of gender-neutral packaging that works, and I am in love with it. Le-Wand, b-Vibe, Nu Sensuelle, NS Novelties and Sportsheets have all done an impressive job of being gender-neutral and inclusive with their packaging and marketing.

We are among the few industries that have been booming during the pandemic, leaving us at an advantage. We should take this time and invest in our future and keep focusing on evolving and striving to be more and more inclusive.

What Does It Mean to Be ‘Sex-Positive’? by Loretta Goodling originally appeared in XBIZ

Satisfyer Duals 2-in-1 Pressure Wave Stimulator and Vibrators

 

Now you can enjoy your choice of stimulating pressure waves or powerful vibrations that seductively pamper all your erogenous zones – in one compact item. Meet the Satisfyer Dual Love and Satisfyer Dual Pleasure.

Dual Love and Dual Pleasure are both double-ended devices that are two toys in one compact package. On one end you have Satisfyer’s legendary air pulse/ pressure waves in eleven intensities that stimulate the entire clitoris, not just the parts you can see. On the other end is a vibrator that offers eleven modes of rumbly vibrations and patterns and an insertable shaft that you can use for internal or external stimulation, depending on your mood.

The functions for both models can be accessed with the intuitive on-board buttons, or use the Satisfyer Connect App to control your pleasure product remotely and create your own vibration programs.

Dual Love offers elegant metallic décor, a straight shape, and wide oval mouth with a thin rim.

Dual Pleasure offers a 100% silicone surface, slightly curved shape, and round mouth with a thick rim.

For an in-depth comparison and review, be sure to check out what Felicity of Phallophile Reviews has to say.

Dual Love and Dual Pleasure are both rated IPX7 waterproof and are covered by Satisfyer’s outstanding 15-year guarantee.

 

Satisfyer Dual Love 2-in-1 Pressure Wave Stimulator and Vibrator

In addition to wonderful pressure waves, the Dual Love vibrates as the straight shaft offers another stimulating option. The device comes prepared to impress you with its app control capabilities and soft silicone covering. The Dual Love also has a striking ergonomic design and is decorated with sophisticated detailing and metal appearance.

With the Dual Love air-pulse vibrator, you can enjoy a sensual combination of stimulating pressure waves and powerful vibrations that seductively pamper your clitoris and G-spot. Since you can use both sides of the vibrator, you have a choice: the strong head, made of body-friendly silicone, that stimulates your clitoris with proven air-pulse technology, or the insertable shaft that stimulates internally or externally with powerful vibrations.

The Dual Love can be controlled both via the intuitive control panel or via the Satisfyer Connect App, which free to download on Android, iOS, and Apple Watch. Using the app, you can control your pleasure product remotely or let your partner take control, and create your own vibration programs to save or share with the community.

The USB rechargeable Dual Love is rated IPX7 waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

Features:

  • 2-in-1 stimulator
  • Clitoral stimulation through pressure waves on one end
  • Vibrator on the other end
  • 2 independently controlled motors
  • 11 Pressure wave intensities
  • 11 Vibration settings – 3 Speeds plus 7 patterns
  • Body-friendly silicone
  • Can also be used without the app
  • App offers an unending range of programs
  • Preset programs can be edited
  • Whisper mode
  • Easy to clean
  • Waterproof (IPX7)
  • Rechargeable Li-ion battery
  • Magnetic USB charging cable included
  • 90 Minute charge provides up to 60 minutes of playtime
  • 15-Year guarantee provided by Satisfyer
  • Silicone and ABS

 

Satisfyer Dual Pleasure 2-in-1 Pressure Wave Stimulator and Vibrator

The Dual Pleasure is a 2-in-1 device that can stimulate both the clitoris and the G-Spot. It combines pulsating pressure waves with a vibrating, ergonomic shaft and can be easily controlled via the Satisfyer Connect app or via the intuitive control panel.

The Satisfyer Dual Pleasure has so much to offer. Not only can you use this air-pulse vibrator as a G-spot vibrator, it also offers you unlimited control via the Satisfyer Connect app. With its slightly curved shaft made of body-friendly silicone, this device can stimulate more than just the G-spot, the other end is a clit stimulator that will titillate with pulsating pressure waves.

The two motors can be controlled separately via the intuitive control panel or the Satisfyer Connect App. The app is free to download on Android, iOS, and Apple Watch, and allows you to control the Dual Pleasure yourself or hand over control to your partner. You can also create your own vibration and air-pulse programs or feel the beat of your favorite songs as vibration patterns from Spotify or your music library. What are you waiting for?

The USB rechargeable Dual Pleasure is rated IPX7 waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

Features:

  • 2-in-1 stimulator
  • Clitoral stimulation through pressure waves on one end
  • Vibrator on the other end
  • 2 independently controlled motors
  • 11 Pressure wave intensities
  • 11 Vibration settings – 3 Speeds plus 7 patterns
  • Body-friendly silicone
  • Can also be used without the app
  • App offers an unending range of programs
  • Preset programs can be edited
  • Whisper mode
  • Easy to clean
  • Waterproof (IPX7)
  • Rechargeable Li-ion battery
  • Magnetic USB charging cable included
  • 90 Minute charge provides up to 60 minutes of playtime
  • 15-Year guarantee provided by Satisfyer
  • Silicone

Fifty Shades of Grey Play Nice Bondage Essentials by Lovehoney

“Game on, Miss Steele.” – Fifty Shades Freed

In celebration of a decade of erotic discovery and fulfilment, the Fifty Shades of Grey Official Pleasure Collection invites you to immerse yourself in the Fifty Shades experience.

Curated by E L James, the silver satin and black lace Play Nice Bondage Essentials are all yours to explore for your very own intense, intimate and thrilling experiences in the bedroom and beyond.

The Satin & Lace Blindfold feels soft and sensual against your skin – perfect for wearing all night long.

Satin & Lace Collar & Nipple Clamps prove that bondage play can be elegant.

Satin & Lace Wrist Cuffs show you can be kinky and fashion-forward.

Part of the Fifty Shades of Grey Official Pleasure Collection approved by author E L James.

 

Fifty Shades of Grey Play Nice Satin & Lace Blindfold

Whether you’re looking to tease and please, or simply catch some Zs, add this beautiful blindfold into the mix.

Made from silver satin with black lace for added sex appeal, it feels soft and sensual against your skin – perfect for wearing all night long.

Inspired by Ana and Christian’s kinky adventures, this luxurious blindfold allows you to dip your toe into the wonderful world of bondage.

Use it to tantalize your lover’s senses, enhance stimulation and explore sensory deprivation.

Features:

  • Shimmering silver satin blindfold with delicate black eyelash lace trim
  • Lightly padded to feel sensual against the skin
  • Elegant shape fits snugly and prevents peeking
  • Elasticated headband provides secure comfort for prolonged wear

 

Fifty Shades of Grey Play Nice Satin & Lace Collar & Nipple Clamps

Proving that bondage play can be elegant, this satin collar is super chic.

Wear the silicone-tipped nipple clamps under your clothes to give you and your lover a kinky secret to share. Enjoy the glorious pinch and build up the sexual anticipation.

The collar is made from soft satin, for enhanced comfort and prolonged wear. Fastened via a quick-release lobster clasp are two adjustable nipple clamps with silicone tips. Simply slide the metal ring up or down to increase or decrease the pinch.

To enhance your pleasure, add a drop of water-based lubricant to each clamp.

Features:

  • Shimmering silver satin collar with delicate eyelash lace trim
  • Discreet clasps on collar offer a secure, comfortable fit
  • Adjustable stainless steel nipple clamps with silicone tips
  • Weighted beads and chain for delicious pull

 

Fifty Shades Of Grey Play Nice Satin & Lace Wrist Cuffs

Keep your lover exactly where you want them with these stylish restraints, inspired by the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy.

Made from sensual, soft satin, with a delicate black lace trim, these wrist cuffs prove you can be kinky and fashion-forward.

Inspired by Ana and Christian’s kinky adventures, these luxurious cuffs allow you to dip your toe into the wonderful world of bondage.

Cuffs adjust between 8.5 and 12.5 inches.

Features:

  • Shimmering silver satin wrist cuffs with delicate eyelash lace trim
  • Clasps on each cuff secure them in place
  • Connected together by a silver-colored metal chain

10 Function Giamo The Divine G by Rocks-Off

Let go and give into the G.

Giamo by Rocks-Off is the pleasure product of choice for those who seek satisfaction, intense power, and total stimulation.

Dressed in sensual velvet touch body safe silicone, the superbly designed massager has been expertly crafted to deliver the ultimate combination of internal satisfaction and G spot orgasm.

Beautifully flowing curves combine with the correctly-tilted shaft to ensure you will experience deep intense pleasure throughout your body. A tapered tip and flexible shaft help you maintain precision stimulation.

A powerful motor provides ten modes of vibration, pulsation, and escalation, accessed by a simple button interface on the handle. That rumbly motor is positioned in the head of the product to give, deep, strong vibrations targeted directly to your G spot, sending you into complete, full body orgasmic surrender. The motor placement also makes Giamo an ideal external stimulator. While in use, the base lights up in time with the vibrations to add visual appeal.

The USB rechargeable Giamo is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

Features:

  • G-Spot vibrator
  • Sensory velvet touch body safe silicone
  • 10 deeply powerful vibration and pulsation levels
  • Tapered tip and flexible shaft for precision internal or external stimulation
  • 3 secs turn on/off
  • 100 % fully waterproof
  • USB magnetic charge – charging cable included
  • 2-hour charge for 1 hour of play
  • 1 Year warranty provided by Rocks-Off
  • Silicone and ABS
  • 8” (5” insertable) x 1.59”

How to Expand Retail Sales With BDSM Essentials

These days, BDSM is more popular than ever, and with so many products to choose from, some adult retailers can feel overwhelmed figuring out what kind of kinky stuff to stock in their stores. And while everyone starts somewhere, it’s essential to sell more than simply beginner-level gear — because a beginner only stays a beginner for so long! Today we’re going to talk about stocking your shop to satisfy all experience and curiosity levels and maybe even help your “vanilla” customers explore their kinky sides!

Start with the basics

Let’s be honest, some BDSM items are tried-and-true basics that would be right at home in any sex shop or lingerie boutique. You probably already have them in stock! These would include blindfolds and sensory play items like feather ticklers. And who doesn’t love fur handcuffs? While we’re talking restraints, sets that easily turn any bed into a sexy home dungeon-like restraint systems appeal to a wide range of shoppers.

Mix it up

We’ve covered the basics, and now it’s time to add a bit more variety. Nipple play implements as well as ball gags are easy additions to any store and make it easy for shoppers to level up their sensory play game. Add in some harnesses, sex swings and sensory play items that are higher quality and made to last well into users’ exploration journeys. Plus, displayed together with some creative mannequin placement, these items make an incredibly eye-catching BDSM display!

When shoppers are exploring something new, kits allow them to try out several items in one purchase, an ideal choice for folks on a budget. Keep a few kits on hand to help your shoppers explore.

Take It to the Next Level

Now it’s time to consider stocking larger BDSM pieces as well as items that cater to specific fetishes, such as items for shoppers who are interested in puppy play. These types of products help you hold on to your customers when they are ready to take their BDSM play to the next level and cater to a range of interests and curiosities in order to accommodate all the kinky folks in your community.

If You Stock It, They Will Come

Lots of folks find the things they like and stick with them. That’s why it can be daunting for a shop with a more “vanilla” type of clientele to set about building a selection of BDSM offerings. But by keeping a healthy stock of BDSM basics on hand from as many kinky categories as you can, you can give your customers the opportunity to learn and explore — something they’ll appreciate. Shoppers who, in the past, may have felt the need to brave a completely different kind of establishment to satisfy their BDSM curiosities will be able to start their experimentation in a shop they are already comfortable with, and you will get to keep your customers coming back for more.

How to Expand Retail Sales With BDSM Essentials by Rebecca Weinberg originally appeared in XBIZ

Slay #CharmMe, #ArouseMe, #SpinMe, and #ThrustMe by CalExotics

Slip a tickling Slay Mini Massager into your purse or handbag for knee-shaking pleasure wherever you go.

Four new styles join the popular value-priced rechargeable mini vibe collection:

#CharmMe is a squishy dual density bullet that packs a punch.

#ArouseMe is a versatile dual density double ended massager that offers a 100% surface play area and both pinpoint and broad stimulation.

#SpinMe is a textured remote-controlled bullet that provides vibration and rotation.

#ThrustMe is a textured remote-controlled bullet that vibrates and thrusts.

The USB rechargeable Slay Massagers are waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

SLAY MASSAGERS FEATURE:

  • Easy-to-operate, rechargeable Silicone massagers with powerful vibrations
  • 10 functions of intense vibration, pulsation and escalation
  • State-of-the-art memory chip resumes on last function used
  • Security travel lock feature – hold for 3 seconds to turn on or off
  • Instructions included
  • Waterproof
  • USB rechargeable
  • Charging cord included
  • 2.5 Hour charge provides up to 1.5 hours playtime
  • Silicone and ABS with gold plating
  • 1 Year warranty provided by CalExotics

 

Slay #CharmMe Flexible Dual Density Bullet

This fully-silicone design is a flexible mini vibe massager adult toy with a full-body vibration. The USB rechargeable device provides 10 functions of intense vibration, pulsation, and escalation, packed into an ultra-soft, ultra-compact device measuring in at a discrete 3.75 inches. It’s the motion of the ocean, not the size of the ship, and this device resonates that frequency to be very, very true!

The perfect play area for this device is… anywhere on your body that you choose! A waterproof design ensures that you aren’t limited to just the bedroom, and a state-of-the-art memory chip resumes one of the 10 functions in this ultra-soft device from the last time you used it. No more fumbling for your favorite setting– just pick up where you left off, and enjoy. The included travel lock setting requires a 3-second push for activation, so no more embarrassing “”vibrating purses”” at the security line.

The USB rechargeable Slay #CharmMe is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

Features:

  • Easy-to-operate, rechargeable, Ultra-Soft dual-density Silicone massager
  • Smooth, flexible design
  • 10 functions of intense vibration, pulsation and escalation
  • 100% play area
  • State-of-the-art memory chip resumes on last function used
  • Security travel lock feature – hold for 3 seconds to turn on or off
  • Waterproof
  • USB rechargeable – charging cord included
  • 1.5 Hour charge provides up to 70 minutes of playtime
  • 1 Year warranty provided by CalExotics
  • Silicone
  • 3.75” x .75”

 

Slay #ArouseMe 2-In-1 Dual Density Massager

Whimsical, versatile, and powerful, Slay #ArouseMe combines advanced technology with playful design. You want it. You need it. You gotta have it!

The Slay #ArouseMe is a unique sex toy massager, crafted for as unique a sensual experience as your imagination desires. The #ArouseMe Ultra-Soft dual-density Silicone massager is easy-to-operate, and it’s rechargeable. Ten functions of intense vibration, pulsation, and escalation all over your body.

The #ArouseMe lets you explore the most innovative methods for pleasing your partner or yourself. A 100% surface play area means you can use either end to experience your choice of pinpoint or broad stimulation.

A state-of-the-art memory chip resumes on the most recent function you used, so you don’t have to mess around looking for the right setting. Just turn it on and go to town! The #ArouseMe also has a security travel lock feature. Just hold for three seconds to turn it on or off.

The USB rechargeable Slay #ArouseMe is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

Features:

  • Ultra-Soft dual-density Silicone massager with arousing pinpointed tip
  • 10 functions of intense vibration, pulsation and escalation
  • 100% play area
  • State-of-the-art memory chip resumes on last function used
  • Security travel lock feature – hold for 3 seconds to turn on or off
  • Waterproof
  • USB rechargeable – charging cord included
  • 2 Hour charge provides up to 120 minutes of playtime
  • 1 Year warranty provided by CalExotics
  • Silicone
  • 1.25” x .75” (tip)
  • 3” x 2” (overall)

 

Slay #SpinMe Remote Rotating & Vibrating Massager

Losing your toys when you’re losing your mind? The Slay #SpinMe comes with an advanced retrieval cord, ensuring that your device is always close by your side. The truly unique design allows for a spinning motion, and this incredibly-textured adult toy can be controlled with or without a remote control, so you can give your partner the power to control your pleasure– from up to 30 feet away!

The silicone design ensures body-safe materials, and the 10 powerful functions of synchronous vibration PLUS rotating action ensures that your every need is met. The advanced, state-of-the-art memory chip will save your last-used setting and resume up when you start again, eliminating any confusion. Simply find the setting you like most, and stick with it… or be a little bit more adventurous, and don’t!

The USB rechargeable Slay #SpinMe is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

Features:

  • Remote control, rechargeable Silicone massager with sensual rotation and incredible texture
  • 10 powerful functions of synchronous vibration plus rotating action
  • Stimulator may be used independently of the remote
  • State-of-the-art memory chip resumes on last function used
  • Security travel lock feature – hold for 3 seconds to turn on or off
  • Extended 32.75’/10 m range
  • RED certificate included
  • Waterproof
  • USB rechargeable (stimulator and remote) – dual charging cord included
  • 1.5 Hour charge provides up to 80 minutes of playtime
  • 1 Year warranty provided by CalExotics
  • Silicone (massager, buttons) ABS with Metallic Plating (décor) ABS (remote)
  • 3.25” x 1.25”

Slay #ThrustMe Remote Thrusting & Vibrating Massager

Slay today, slay tonight, and slay all day with the Slay #ThrustMe vibrating massager.

This thrusting, rotating, and fully-textured adult toy is fun for solo use, but for the truly adventurous, it also comes with a remote for a partner to play, too! The 32 foot remote distance gives you plenty of room for the most innovative of play. Let your imagination run wild!

It’s not often that you see sex toys with this kind of innovation– and the fun silicone patterned exterior just adds to the play. With 10 powerful functions of synchronous vibration PLUS thrusting action, some users may be intimidated by the options, but put your fears aside. Just rotate through the options until you find the setting you like, and the state-of-the-art memory chip will resume with the last function you used, every time. No more fumbling before tumbling, get right to the point! For people with more varying tastes, have some fun with it– you can cycle through the options as many or as few times as you would like.

Want this 3.25 inches to become your travel companion? No worries, with the 3-second-hold travel lock, this won’t be powering on with just a nudge.

The USB rechargeable Slay #ThrustMe is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

Features:

  • Remote control, rechargeable Silicone massager with passionate thrusting and sensual waves
  • 10 powerful functions of synchronous vibration plus thrusting action
  • Stimulator may be used independently of the remote
  • State-of-the-art memory chip resumes on last function used
  • Security travel lock feature – hold for 3 seconds to turn on or off
  • Extended 32.75’/10 m range
  • RED certificate included
  • Waterproof
  • USB rechargeable (stimulator and remote) – dual charging cord included
  • 1.5 Hour charge provides up to 80 minutes of playtime
  • 1 Year warranty provided by CalExotics
  • Silicone (massager, buttons) ABS with Metallic Plating (décor) ABS (remote)
  • 3.25” x 1.25”

INYA Bump-N-Grind Rechargeable Warming Vibe by NS Novelties

Designed for simultaneous internal and external stimulation, the compact INYA Bump-N-Grind Rechargeable Warming Vibe by NS Novelties features powerful dual motors, highly textured surfaces, and a sensual warming function for a blissful experience.

The distinctive design features a wide textured external stimulator that offers pleasure ridges on the outer edges and raised dots on the contoured center. The flattened bowed base makes it easy to hold and is ideal to grind against.

The curved internal arm offers its own motor encased in a spiral-surfaced bullet as well as a textured connector strap, creating an open-style shaft. This unique design allows the vibrations to carry back and forth between the separated bullet and the strap, offering a reverberating sensation.

The ten modes of vibration and warming function that quickly heats to body temperature are controlled via wireless remote, allowing you stay in control or to place your pleasure in your partner’s hands.

Dressed in NS Novelties’ proprietary platinum-grade silicone, Bump-N-Grind is suitable for use with all lubricants, including your favorite silicone formulas.

The USB rechargeable INYA Bump-N-Grind is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

Features:

  • Compact dual stimulator
  • Dual motors
  • Broad textured external stimulator ideal for grinding
  • Open-design internal arm
  • 10 Modes of vibration
  • Sensual warming feature heats up to body temperature
  • Waterproof
  • USB rechargeable – charging cable included
  • 1 Year warranty provided by NS Novelties
  • Silicone and ABS
  • 4.5” (4” insertable) x 1.3” x 3.7”

How Retailers Can Embrace the Latest Trends in Digital Intimacy

I don’t know about you but it seems like more and more of my life goes online every day. In one way, it is wonderful because I can literally make friends all over the world. In another, it is awful because I find myself missing the little daily intimacies with a loved one or friends.

And while a nice coffee house ASMR background track is a pleasure to write to, it doesn’t have the 3D impact of the smell of the coffee or the whoosh of cool air as the door opens up to the possibility of a new friend.

Keep in mind we are all learning to embrace Zoom and Skype and Only fans pages, but we still crave basic human interaction.

Don’t worry adult retailers; if there is one thing our industry excels at, it’s embracing new technology. We retailers shouldn’t curse the darkness; we should embrace the light shining on our faces from all those mobile device and laptop screens — because technology changes, but people don’t.

There is still room in the market to serve our local clientele and make their online explorations easier and more satisfying for them, and more profitable for us.

Here are three ways to take advantage of the new digital trends in your store:

  • Embrace Bluetooth-enabled technology
  • Beef up your lingerie section
  • Carry more interactive toys that talk to or react to the customer input

Bluetooth Technology

There are some amazing toys available on the market that can really shrink the distance between partners when they are close enough to a Wifi source. We-Vibe’s Bluetooth technology has been around for a good while and their app is easy to manage on a smartphone. Satisfyer has recently stepped their game up in regards to Bluetooth technology and they are in the process of converting their whole line to be compatible.

Many of the Bluetooth toys come with longer warranties and companies that stand behind the quality of their creations and are being equipped with better rechargeable batteries. Toys that last longer and don’t create toxic waste by burning up multiple sets of batteries are a better value for the customer and a better choice for the environment. That makes them an easy up-sell.

Lingerie

Lingerie has been the absolute sleeper best seller for me in 2020-21. I personally think those casual Friday Zoom meetings have morphed into a little something extra spicy.

Not to mention the rise of cam girls. A lot of the local strippers came in and bought poles when the clubs got shut down amid the pandemic, and have figured out an all-new home-based business model. The nice thing for us is that they come in once or twice a week to freshen up their naughty wardrobe.

Body-stockings are a huge seller for us, and anything colorful and fun is flying out of the door. Be sure to stock a good variety in many sizes and get feedback on what the girls in your area are looking for.

Last summer, after the movie “365 Days” debuted on Netflix, I placed an order based on the fashion I saw in the movie and it disappeared in a weekend. This trend made anything strappy and slightly European-influenced super hot right now.

Interactive Toys

I think there is plenty of room for expansion and I love to see the creativity that this business has to identify and meet the needs of our clientele.

The Dirty Talk line by Pipedream has been hugely popular for us because everyone enjoys getting cheered on every now and then. I would love a toy that tells me I’m pretty, and everything is going to be okay. If it did it with Charlie Hunnam’s voice or with a nice Irish lilt, it would double the value to me. (Hint, hint manufacturers.)

Of course it goes without saying that keeping your store scrupulously clean and providing hand sanitizer and masks, as well as incorporating touch-less payment technology where possible are the bare minimum of standards if you want people to feel comfortable coming out into the world again.

Thankfully my staff and I have stayed well during these strange times and look forward to the time when we can break the testers back out for our customers, and maybe one day hop on a plane and see old friends from the business again.

But until then, I’ll see you on Zoom and I’ll be wearing something cute.

 

How Retailers Can Embrace the Latest Trends in Digital Intimacy by Tami Rose originally appeared in XBIZ

Lustful Climaxer Pinpoint Stimulator by Nasstoys

Enjoy smooth pinpoint perfection with the Lustful Climaxer.

Featuring a petite and sleek design with a wide silicone handle that tapers to a polished metallic ABS stem ending in a rounded tip, the Lustful Climaxer curves to easily reach your hot spots.

Seven modes of vibration, pulsation, and escalation are easy to explore using the button on the handle.

The USB rechargeable Lustful Climaxer is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

Features:

  • Slim vibrator with pinpoint tip
  • 7 Vibration modes
  • Petite and sleek design
  • Easy single button control
  • Phthalates free
  • Waterproof
  • USB rechargeable – charging cable included
  • 2 Hour charge provides up to 1 hour of playtime
  • RoHs compliant
  • 30 Day warranty provided by Nasstoys
  • Silicone & ABS
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Fifty Shades of Grey Play Nice Massage Essentials by Lovehoney

“Game on, Miss Steele.” – Fifty Shades Freed

In celebration of a decade of erotic discovery and fulfilment, the Fifty Shades of Grey Official Pleasure Collection invites you to immerse yourself in the Fifty Shades experience.

Curated by E L James, the Play Nice Massage Essentials are all yours to explore for your very own intense, intimate and thrilling experiences in the bedroom and beyond.

The Body Massager is a non-vibrating tool for sensual and effective massages.

The Vanilla Massage Oil is sensually scented and perfect for foreplay.

The Vanilla Candle gives your boudoir some ambience and sets the scene for seduction.

Part of the Fifty Shades of Grey Official Pleasure Collection approved by author E L James.

 

Fifty Shades of Grey Play Nice Body Massager

Pamper and pleasure your partner with the sensual touch of this Fifty Shades of Grey body massager. Featuring four smooth, spherical points and an ergonomic handle for total control over each stroke, this tool will tease, relax and awaken the senses.

Smooth, seductive and perfect for romantic nights in, this massager pairs perfectly with aromatic massage oil.

Features:

  • Massage tool for sensual and effective massages
  • Features four smooth, spherical points and an ergonomic handle
  • Complete with tips and suggestions on how best to use it

 

Fifty Shades of Grey Play Nice Vanilla Massage Oil

Bring the spa to the boudoir with this vanilla-scented massage oil. Perfect for treating your lover to a sensual massage, it gives your palms the glorious glide they need. Inspired by the Fifty Shades of Grey books, it’s the ideal way to fire up foreplay.

Drip the sweet-smelling oil all over your lover’s body, and get up close and personal with their erogenous zones. Let your hands glide over their back, legs and arms, and watch as their tensions melt away.

A sensual, oily massage is a perfect way to explore your lover’s body, get intimate and initiate foreplay. Keep this little bottle of oil at arm’s reach, right next to your bed. You never know when the mood may strike.

Ingredients: Ethylhexyl Palmitate, Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride, Isopropyl Myristate, Parfum.

Features:

  • Sensual vanilla-scented massage oil
  • Perfect for foreplay and seduction
  • Travel-friendly 90ml/3 fl oz bottle

 

Fifty Shades of Grey Play Nice Vanilla Candle

Give your boudoir some ambience with this sweet-smelling candle.

Inspired by the kinky shenanigans of the Fifty Shades of Grey books, it’s sure to set the mood. Light it up, pop open a bottle of bubbly and get ready for an evening of indulgence.

With a gorgeous, sweet vanilla fragrance, this luxurious candle is sure to inspire Ana-and-Christian-style adventures.

Ingredients: Soy Wax, (Vanilla Bean) Fragrance.

Features:

  • Sensual vanilla-scented candle to set the scene for seduction
  • Made from soy wax for a long-lasting glow
  • Infused with vanilla bean fragrance
  • 3 oz. Tin