How Can I Improve My Relationship During Covid?

While we enter into month 9,485 of whatever 2020 has brought us, the concern of the moment is: how are your relationships going? This can be a significant other, a family member, a friend, a roommate, or what have you. There are countless studies on relationships, but not so many on how to deal with your relationship during a once-in-a-lifetime global pandemic.

So what can you do to help 1. your mental health and 2. your relationship?

Set boundaries and a schedule. Yes, it feels weird if you haven’t done this over the past 6 months of quarantine, but please try. We promise it will help your sanity and it will help set a structure. For at least one week, try to set up a structure for everyone in the house to follow. This is especially important if you have kids (school will hopefully help this).

Morning: try to start by moving! If you are still working from home, try to start with a walk to move and leave your home for a bit.

Create a lunchtime and stick to it!

Afternoon: make sure you get your work or school done.

Make dinner structured and maybe even fun! Try to divvy up the dinner duties and chores among whoever is in your home. Trying different recipes can be a fun way to to mix up staying at home.

Evening: Create some wind-down schedules. Maybe your home team would work well with different themed nights (Movie Mondays, game night Thursdays).

Prioritize “me time” for everyone in the house.  This was important B.C. (Before Covid) and it’s even more important now. If a structured schedule outlined in the first point above works for your home, make sure that “me time” is included. Use this time to go to different rooms (if available), or alternate using a room for this purpose. You can also go for walks in your neighborhood, at parks, or beaches.

Make sure to branch out your social circles (yes, virtually). Your inner circle can get very small very quickly and time turns into a blur, right? Make sure to maintain the other relationships that are important to you. Set up Zoom dates with family and friends who you are unable to safely spend in-person time with.

COMMUNICATE in the bedroom and out of the bedroom. As always, communication is key in any relationship. If you’re feeling up, down, out of it, whatever, share that with your people! If you’re with your significant other, make sure the lines of communication are open mentally and physically. Keep the flame going, whether that be role playing or buying some new toys, all is important. Maybe try adding some sexy time to your schedule – whether that’s with or without a partner.

Keep your beautiful chins up, babies! We can get through this together.

How Can I Improve My Relationship During Covid? Originally appeared on Pleasure Blog

They-ology Vibrating Intimate Massager by CalExotics

Embrace flexible pleasure and let the versatile They-Ology Vibrating Intimate Massager take care of all your needs.

The flexible body, 100% silicone play area and 10 vibration functions are made to increase circulation and enhance intimacy. This high-powered massager is created with a flexible neck and broad head to let you control sensation with ease.

Indulge in personalized pleasure while the curved head shimmies to the rhythm of 10 vibration, pulsation and escalation. Control this variety of orgasmic options with the easy-touch control pad.

The USB rechargeable They-ology Vibrating Intimate Massager is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.


  • Vibrating personal massager to increase circulation and enhance intimacy
  • 10 powerful speeds of vibration
  • Premium Silicone with 100% play area
  • Smooth, flexible head for full–coverage stimulation
  • Security travel lock feature – hold for 3 seconds to turn on or off
  • Waterproof
  • USB rechargeable – charging cord included
  • 2.5 Hour charge provides up to 3 hours of playtime
  • Massager guide from Dr. Sherry included
  • 1 Year warranty provided by CalExotics
  • Silicone
  • 8.5” x 1.75” (overall)
  • 1.75” x 1.75” (head)

How to Use:

Getting Started with a Vibrating Intimate Massager

Find a time and a quiet place where you can be comfortable, either alone or with your partner. Relax and take some deep breaths before gently beginning your massage.

Apply the massager to the area of your body that needs massaging or stimulation. Use a water-based lubricant if needed. Start with the lowest speed and slowly increase at your own comfort level.

Increasing Your Speed with a Vibrating Intimate Massager

The goal of using a vibrating intimate massager is to enhance sexual arousal and reduce stress by targeting specific areas of the body. Increase your speed as needed to achieve the ultimate level of relaxation. By the end of your session, you should feel well balanced and re-energized.

When to Practice with Your Vibrating Intimate Massager

Practice as often as feels comfortable. While the length of time may vary, it is not recommended for use for extended periods of time.

She-ology Advanced 3-Piece Wearable Vaginal Dilator Set by CalExotics

Revitalize and strengthen vaginal muscles with the contoured She-ology Advanced 3-Piece Wearable Vaginal Dilator Set.

The uniquely designed 3-piece dilator kit is ergonomically curved and gradually sized to allow for gentle dilation.

The advanced size silicone probes have a curved base for gentle insertion and stimulation, pair with a mini bullet for intensified sensation!

The graduated set has been created to revive vaginal muscle strength and reduce insertion discomfort with every use. Use the small dilator to begin and as you gently exercise and increase the elasticity of muscles, advance to the larger probes.

With unique wearable design, each probe is finished with a flexible flanged base for comfort and easy of mobility. The hypoallergenic premium silicone is body safe, unscented and phthalate free to keep you most sensitive spots, happy and healthy.


  • May restore and revive vaginal strength and comfort
  • 3-piece Silicone dilator set with expanded sizes for advanced gradual dilation
  • Unique, wearable design for comfort and easy mobility
  • Ergonomically curved for ease of use
  • Dilators may accommodate a stimulator if desired (not included)
  • Dilator guide from Dr. Sherry included
  • 1 Year warranty provided by CalExotics
  • Silicone
  • 3.13” x 1.28” (dilator 1)
  • 3.38” x 1.75” (dilator 2)
  • 3.72” x 1.93” (dilator 3)


How to Use:

Getting Started with Vaginal Dilators

Find a time and a quiet place where you can be comfortable, either alone or with your partner. The most natural position for insertion is with one leg placed on top of the toilet seat or lying on your back with your legs in a “frog-leg” position. Relax your pelvic floor muscles, take some deep breaths, and gently insert the dilator.

Inserting the Vaginal Dilator

Start with the smallest size dilator in your kit. Insert a well-lubricated dilator into the vagina until the base is flush with the vaginal opening. A water-based lubricant is recommended. Wearing a pair of snug-fitting underwear will help keep the dilator in place, especially in the upright position.

Increasing Your Dilator Size

The goal of using a vaginal dilator is to increase the size of the dilator slowly and comfortably to retrain, expand, and gently stretch the entrance and canal of the vagina for additional comfort and pleasure. When you can insert one size of a dilator completely without any discomfort, then you should start using the next size up. The goal is to insert the largest size dilator without any discomfort.

Enhance dilation by inserting a vibrating bullet into the base of your dilator. This added stimulation and sensation may help relax your muscles when increasing dilator sizes.

When to Practice with Vaginal Dilators

It is recommended to use a dilator 2 to 4 times per week for 5 to 30 minutes as needed and depending on your comfort level.

LELO SILA Sonic Clitoral Massager

Explore your fantasies and redefine the meaning of pleasure with SILA.

Inspired by the world’s most famous clitoral massager SONA, SILA gently allows you to explore new ways to reach climax.

Featuring eight sonic wave intensities for whole clitoral stimulation, and a mouth that lightly encompasses the center of your pleasure for progressive satisfaction, SILA is not only a treat to your senses – it is the ultimate guide through the paths to reach a fulfilling climax again and again.

As gentle waves surge from the tip of your clitoris, reach the climax of your dreams and soar to new heights of ecstasy. SILA offers a new way to experience foreplay, teaching you about self-love, teasing you to reach your climax slowly as you listen to your body for a more intense orgasm. Build your sexual experience with its softer, deeper, and overall bigger mouth that will give you complete satisfaction from top to bottom.

Get to Know SILA:

1 – GENTLE SONIC WAVES – SILA’s sonic waves offer a gentle clitoral stimulation allowing you to enjoy the intensities without making direct contact.

2 – LARGE MOUTH – SILA’s wide mouth gravitates around the center of your pleasure zone, engaging the entire erogenous area and enhancing the orgasmic sensation. The vibrations are spread with equal intensity across the whole clitoris, not just in its center, which leads to a sensual, slow build-up of orgasm

3 – EXTRA-SOFT SILICONE – Ultra-smooth premium and body-safe silicone for an ultimate sensual experience and total peace of mind.


  • Sonic Clitoral Stimulator
  • Stimulates The Entire Clitoris – even the parts you don’t see
  • 8 Pleasure Settings – from a teasing murmur to a satisfying pulse
  • Sculpted For Your Pleasure – fits your body like a glove
  • Whisper Quiet – discreet pleasure, anywhere
  • Extra-Soft Silicone – ultra-smooth premium silicone that’s extra soft to the touch
  • 100% Waterproof – perfect for the bath and shower
  • USB Rechargeable – charging cable included
  • 1 Year warranty and 10-year guarantee provided by LELO

In the Box:

  • SILA
  • USB-Charging Cord
  • Satin Storage Pouch
  • Warranty Registration Card
  • Detailed Instruction Manual

Silicone and ABS

3.1” x 2.9” x 1.4”

How COVID Restrictions Are Unleashing New Retail Opportunities


One thing about COVID is that we have all gone through each phase of it together, whether we wanted to or not. Watching retail stores combat their way through existence during these tough times has been an eye-opening and awe-inspiring experience. Oh, the things I have learned …

We are much more agile than we think or claim to be. So many rules existed before COVID that just do not apply anymore. Like being able to take a credit card over the phone or skipping back pay upon employee exits. It feels different for all of us, but some of these are arbitrary rules that we put into place that in hindsight may have affected us more negatively than positively.

We always initially set rules with good intentions, to protect our business and our customers, but also ourselves. It has felt like the absence of these everyday little rules we have in place, the arbitrary boundaries, has freed us to grow and develop where we would have otherwise not explored. Watching businesses experience booming online growth while they remain closed is amazing. Employees are shifting into new or temporary roles to be fluid with business needs as we cope and strategize to get through more retail virus-life. Think about some of the rules or policies you have in your store that may not serve your culture or mission anymore. Giving up rules does not mean losing structure — look at it from a perspective that enables you to reallocate those resources.

Policing policies and enforcing rules takes time and energy and can often result in making people feel devalued. If you have a loss and prevention team leader, enable another employee to lead a team morale program. Try to balance things that feel restrictive with empowering, leadership-creating opportunities in your store or industry place of work. Think about if you were training for the first day as a new employee. If your day were spent learning what “not to do,” it would leave you in a much different mindset than a day spent talking about employee development and growth to achieve business goals. Both scenarios are technically seeking the same result — a better bottom line. How these different approaches improve that bottom line is up to the employees in either scenario. Be the positive change you can be while COVID allows us to spend the time and resources thinking outside the box!

It is a lot of work to convey to people that you are smiling under that mask. I visited a small store this past weekend that reminded me that it is the people and their energy that make the store. This store was clearly low on inventory and did not have any other customers. But the energy made me feel like I was hanging with friends. The music was up, they were so kind about mentioning the rules, and then they just swept you away into their world of good energy and the flow of some normal conversation.

Was it earth-shattering? Honestly a little bit, yes. It was the most familial, VIP-feeling shopping experience that I have experienced in eight months. I did not feel like we could not express our personalities or were restricted by hospital-grade rules. This store had managed to humanize what would have otherwise been an incredibly quiet, awkward shopping experience. I spent a lot of money in a store that did not have a lot of inventory because of the people, not the stuff. It is exhausting to be in sales right now, but just remember that you create your environment. Does it feel like a clinic in your store, or does it feel like a clean, re-organized version of your old favorite? Mandatory signage does not have to take away from store appeal, make it fun and think of it as additional branding opportunities. Try to think from the perspective of a first-time customer and let that guide you and your energy on the sales floor.

In the adult industry, we have so much potential to help people love themselves and their bodies. COVID has made self-love a front-and-center health topic. Our industry and its brick-and-mortar or online sites are better equipped than anyone to be the liaison between people and the tools they need to be the best version of themselves. We have the products and knowledge to create personal confidence, teach much-needed sex education and tips to spice up people’s lives, and finally the sales ability to gain a customer’s trust when it comes to vulnerable or sensitive topics. These are a trifecta of attributes for a super-sale and bringing a long-term customer to your store’s VIP list.

Essentially, I am suggesting a focus on creating a retail environment during COVID that reflects positive energy and brings some humanity to an otherwise sterile situation. Sound tough? Nothing is tough if you have the right people around you. That is the most important thing that I have learned during COVID — the right people mean everything. My customers, coworkers, colleagues, “my industry people” mean so much to me. Take some extra time to keep connected with your people; it’s worth the investment.

And finally in a COVID world where you can be anyone behind that mask, be kind.


How COVID Restrictions Are Unleashing New Retail Opportunities by Danielle Seerley originally appeared in XBIZ.

Elixir Play Amethyst Ultra Flexible Dual Stimulator

It’s Your Body. Your Play. Your Way. Whichever way you choose, Amethyst will work with your body to reach the Big O.

Amethyst is a fully flexible and ultra-soft dual stimulator designed to bend and flex with the curves of your body providing simultaneous internal and clitoral stimulation.

Amethyst provides vibrations through both flat surfaces of its shape – one at the head and one on the clitoral stimulation arm – supplying maximum stimulation to both the clitoris and G-spot.

All bodies are different which is why Elixir Play made Amethyst fully flexible to fit more bodies perfectly. Traditional toys have a large plastic component wrapped in silicone which means they don’t offer a lot of movement for you to fit your body. Amethyst has plastic only wrapped around the motors which means most of its body can be adjusted to fit yours.

Amethyst has 10 modes of vibration so you can select the ones that feel good for you. As with all Elixir Play toys, we encourage you to explore your body and do what makes you feel good.

Amethyst comes in a gorgeous purple just like its namesake gemstone and is beautifully packaged for you with a luxury satin bag for storage.

The USB rechargeable Elixir Play Amethyst Ultra Flexible Dual Stimulator is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.


  • Ultra-flexible dual stimulator
  • 10 Vibration modes
  • Fully flexible
  • Flattened head and clitoral stimulator for full-contact vibrations
  • Waterproof
  • Storage bag included
  • USB Rechargeable – charging cable included
  • 2 Hour charge provides up to 2 hours of playtime
  • 1 Year warranty provided by Elixir Play
  • 8.5” (5” Insertable) x 1.1” at widest point

Has Lockdown Helped to Ease Masturbation Stigma?


Lockdown loving has been a hot topic over the last few months, with articles about keeping your sex life alive when you’re stuck in close quarters, reports that visits to porn sites are skyrocketing, and individuals across the country realizing that “more time to relax” often equals “more time to masturbate and have sex.” Back in April, Business Insider reported that sales of sex toys had skyrocketed — no doubt due to people finding new ways to pass the time when they didn’t have work and commuting eating into so much of their day.
Of course, the broader picture could be a bit more complicated than that: the self-love-in caused by lockdown has been hampered by the fact that we’re locking down due to a pandemic. Grief, stress, anxiety, imminent recession: none of these things are particularly conducive to feeling sexy, and the nation (indeed, the world) will likely spend a long time recovering from this collective trauma even if we do manage to find that gold-dust vaccine soon.

I’ve read many articles over the last couple of months about changes we’ve implemented during coronavirus that we could do with keeping in the long-term. More flexible working is definitely one of them, as well as increased cycling and walking provision to ease the strain on public transport. But what about the changes that have had an impact on our sex lives? Personally I think that the increased use of sex toys and porn, combined with more spare time to use to indulge them, could greatly improve both the physical and mental health of society.

I’m especially keen to understand whether lockdown has helped to ease masturbation stigma — encouraging more people to masturbate and be open about doing so. A fascinating survey back in June revealed that 40 percent of men say they’re masturbating more since the start of lockdown. Through my work, I know that masturbation stigma for men (predominantly — though not entirely — cisgender men) is a huge issue. While sex toys and masturbation for women are now regularly covered in mainstream media, there is still a huge taboo around discussing male masturbation. Particularly where it involves sex toys, and doubly so if those sex toys happen to be anal ones.

The fact that more men are masturbating during lockdown should be good news to everyone — not only does masturbation have some very specific physical and mental health benefits, the more people are willing to admit to doing it, the more likely it is that we’ll chip away at the masturbation stigma that has caused so much anguish over decades and centuries. The reasons cited in the poll were mainly because people weren’t located with their partners so were more likely to be enjoying solo sex, but many also cited simply having more time on their hands. Given this, should we perhaps be factoring “more time to masturbate” into our calculations about what a post-Covid world should look like? I think so.

There’s been plenty of talk of baking sourdough, nurturing plants, or taking up arts and crafts to pass the time during 2020, but self-care doesn’t always come wrapped in wholesome packaging. Sometimes self-care — or partner care — involves lube and vibrators and a great porn scene on the laptop. And if we’re working from home more, there’s lots of time to do exactly that.

Recently, the U.K. government has been all but begging people to return to work, and been met with deafening silence from commuters who are sick of jamming themselves into crowded train carriages. When we discuss the reasons for this, we usually focus on the ones that are suitable to be printed on the front page of newspapers: disease transmission (in offices or on public transport) is a huge risk, there are significant environmental factors involved in daily commuting, and the cost of it — both in time and money — takes a huge toll on people’s lives. But while it may still be a bit taboo to say, I think it’s worth mentioning that our sexual wellness takes a nosedive in these scenarios too. Who really wants to get sexy after two hours being intimate with a stranger’s armpit on a commuter train? Who has the energy to dedicate to an hour of self-love when you’ve spent all day in pointless meetings fueled only by a sandwich?

There’s a huge rush at the moment to “restart the economy” — those who own office buildings and city-center sandwich chains are champing at the bit to have us all trudging back into work. But those of us in the adult industry are probably much keener to see where this new world could take us. Not only could the parts of the economy in which we work grow significantly, we also recognize that the work we do has a hugely positive impact on people’s way of life.

When we talk about lockdown changing our lifestyle, it’s important to acknowledge that sex lives are part of our lifestyle too. So when the pandemic is over, and the anxiety and stress it brings starts to fade away, do we really want to go back to how things were? I think we’d be much happier embracing our change of pace, allowing for 40 percent more masturbation and a hell of a lot less stress.

Has Lockdown Helped to Ease Masturbation Stigma? By Julia Margo originally appeared in XBIZ


Naughty Bits Butt Balls Silicone Booty Beads by CalExotics

The Naughty Bits Butt Balls Silicone Booty Beads is made for all your anal needs with a plush silicone, tapered beads and easy retrieval loop.

The petite plug has a sturdy o-shaped retrieval loop for comfortable insertion, thrilling stimulation and safe, gentle removal.

Perfect for beginners and erotic experts alike, the tapered shaft increases in girth for intensifying pleasure.

The Naughty Bits collection is made to stand out in any nightstand with eye-catching designs and orgasmic features. The ultra plush silicone and golden marbled pattern of this gorgeous anal probe will make even the most stylish lover smiling before and after.


  • Soft, smooth and tapered body safe Silicone beaded probe
  • Perfectly sized
  • Pliable and durable
  • Easy retrieval ring
  • Silicone
  • 4.5” x 1.25”

Gaia Eco Rechargeable Bullet by Blush

The Gaia Eco Rechargeable Bullet is an eco-conscious recyclable vibrator!

You’ll love the power of this smooth bullet and take comfort knowing that Gaia Eco Rechargeable Bullet uses less energy and creates fewer greenhouse gas emissions than any other sex toy on the market.

This pleasure-packed petite vibe is made of BioFeel, a bioplastic or polymer compound mixed with plant based materials, so when disposed of it will biodegrade within 47-90 days in a commercial composting facility.

Enjoy five speeds and five rhythms for a total of ten powerful vibration functions, controlled with an easy push button.

The USB rechargeable Gaia Eco Rechargeable Bullet is splashproof for easy care and cleanup.


  • Eco conscious biodegradable & recyclable vibrator
  • 10 strong vibration functions – 5 speeds + 5 rhythms
  • Splashproof
  • USB rechargeable
  • PLA/ Biofeel bioplastic
  • 2.75″ x 0.7″

Top 4 Tips for Boosting Holiday Retail Sales

With the season of giving fast approaching comes the hectic scramble to find the perfect holiday gift. This annual ritual often translates to endless hours of pacing the mall, aimlessly browsing online, or, worse, falling prey to last-minute gift ideas that neither show nor tell the receiver you were thinking of them.

But what if you could help consumers ditch the holiday headache by finding the ideal gift of a pleasure product? With a little creativity, your business can help bring more pleasure and joy this holiday season with a fun, easy and strategic approach to gift-giving.

Here are a few ways to encourage sex toy gift-giving while boosting your holiday sales:

1. Draw shoppers in with a gift section they can’t resist!

Help make gift-giving easy by featuring a holiday gift section in your store or online. Get festive with your gift section and include options that cover all levels of heat. Whether it’s someone’s first time shopping for a sex toy or they’re your regular shopper, make gifting easy with the perfect variety to get their imagination going. Take this opportunity to highlight some of your bestselling items, sex toy essentials, trending toys for 2019, or toy predictions for 2020.

2. Offer gift suggestions that are inclusive, fun and go beyond relationship status, sexual identity and sexual preference.

Be sure to include ideas at different price points, from low-cost to luxury finds. Consider highlighting bundled items like toys and lube, which look good together, and subtly upsell your products. Kits are also a great gift idea because they offer more bang for your buck, and they’re a fun introduction to sex toys for those looking to experiment or explore new sensations.

3. Go the extra mile for your customers.

Offer shoppers the option to have their item gift-wrapped in-store while they shop, which is a great way to help customers check off items on their holiday to-do list during the mad holiday rush. Cater to those last-minute shoppers by giving customers the gift of expedited shipping. With your help, customers can take advantage of last-minute shopping sprees online without worrying if their gifts will arrive on time. Want to get even more creative? Include a checkout option to add a special message for those looking to add a personal touch to their gift.

4. Join in the spirit of giving.

Express your gratitude with customer incentives. Gift your customers a coupon for their next visit, or include a small gift with each purchase, offer customers a gift card bonus when buying a gift card, or reward repeat customers with rewards points. These simple options can help build customer loyalty while also increasing your sales. Treat your VIPs extra special by offering unique incentives for customers who’ve recently shopped at your store, or who are part of your loyalty program.

While gifting a sex toy can be intimidating for some, the overall stigma of sex toy gift-giving has dramatically decreased over time. This decrease is thanks in part to the growing positivity toward sexual wellness and pleasure in Hollywood and mainstream media. According to a survey recently released by CalExotics, 88 percent of people said they would be open to receiving a sex toy as a gift from a romantic partner, with the vast majority saying they’d be “thrilled” or “intrigued” by it.

Sex toys can be a great way to rekindle relationships, strengthen friendships, and add some heat to the sex lives of consumers. So, this gift-giving season, we encourage you to find creative ways to showcase your product and help consumers struggling to find a meaningful gift. Remember, providing consumers with a unique and memorable shopping experience is key. If you do this right, you’ll be surprised by how many repeat customers you’ll gain.

Top 4 Tips for Boosting Holiday Retail Sales by Vanessa Boekenoogen originally appeared in XBIZ

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